Maria McErlane

We argue about one thing and one thing only, money.

It has become less of an issue, but he earns more than double my salary.

So I often feel awkward spending money on myself as he tends to pay the mortgage as well as renovating the house bit by bit, which we are doing totally ourselves.

He goes for expensive haircuts and buys more expensive clothes, but does pay a lot into the relationship.

I spend £15 on my hair and adore a charity shop bargain.

I pay all the bills with my wages and pay for things like Netflix and the RHS.

Okay.

So I messaged him the truth and apologized.

He said he was disappointed I had lied so easily to his face and said I could use my money however I wanted.

I've since realized I've grown accustomed to these monetary lies without realizing, and I've actually done it a lot.

Just because I feel some kind of shame that we don't earn the same, I've always felt I was on the back foot, always trying to keep up.

Never quite good enough.

It's the only thing in our relationship that doesn't work.

So, how can a relationship work successfully when one partner earns way more than the other?

And that is from Anonymous.

I feel I know everything about Anonymous's life there.

But mainly what I unpack from that is where is the argument with the husband?

Yes, I don't quite know.

The only thing we ever argue about is money, and yet I'm seeing no argument other than you lying to him and him saying, you spend your money how you like.

I'm going to a hooker tonight.