Maria
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That was how I grew up. And I have come full circle to really thinking about the child and my mother, how nobody saw her, nobody comforted her. And I think our job is to heal ourselves so we don't continue the pattern. Right. I didn't want to be. I admired my mother. She's still my greatest role model. I think about her probably every single day. I'm in conversation with her.
We were talking, yeah, about work, about my brothers and about what are we doing? How are we changing the world? But I realized after my mother died, really, that nobody talked to her about her feelings. Nobody comforted her. Nobody talked to her about her grief. So how could I have expected her to do that for me? And I wanted to break that pattern as a mother.
We were talking, yeah, about work, about my brothers and about what are we doing? How are we changing the world? But I realized after my mother died, really, that nobody talked to her about her feelings. Nobody comforted her. Nobody talked to her about her grief. So how could I have expected her to do that for me? And I wanted to break that pattern as a mother.
We were talking, yeah, about work, about my brothers and about what are we doing? How are we changing the world? But I realized after my mother died, really, that nobody talked to her about her feelings. Nobody comforted her. Nobody talked to her about her grief. So how could I have expected her to do that for me? And I wanted to break that pattern as a mother.
I wanted to break that for my own children. So I talk a lot about feelings. I talk a lot about... With your boys and your girls. With my boys and my girls and with my friends as well. To me, that's really important is to go deep and to understand... What are you feeling? What are you thinking? How can I be there to support you in any way? Because I didn't get that as a kid.
I wanted to break that for my own children. So I talk a lot about feelings. I talk a lot about... With your boys and your girls. With my boys and my girls and with my friends as well. To me, that's really important is to go deep and to understand... What are you feeling? What are you thinking? How can I be there to support you in any way? Because I didn't get that as a kid.
I wanted to break that for my own children. So I talk a lot about feelings. I talk a lot about... With your boys and your girls. With my boys and my girls and with my friends as well. To me, that's really important is to go deep and to understand... What are you feeling? What are you thinking? How can I be there to support you in any way? Because I didn't get that as a kid.
Well, my mother was sick pretty much all my life. And I think people didn't realize that really about her. No. And so she had two padded doors before going into her bedroom. And she told us that it was because she was a light sleeper and needed to sleep. But there were two really double padded doors to get into her room, which you didn't get into.
Well, my mother was sick pretty much all my life. And I think people didn't realize that really about her. No. And so she had two padded doors before going into her bedroom. And she told us that it was because she was a light sleeper and needed to sleep. But there were two really double padded doors to get into her room, which you didn't get into.
Well, my mother was sick pretty much all my life. And I think people didn't realize that really about her. No. And so she had two padded doors before going into her bedroom. And she told us that it was because she was a light sleeper and needed to sleep. But there were two really double padded doors to get into her room, which you didn't get into.
And so my experience was she lived at the end of the hall behind these two padded doors that there was no way she could hear me if I knocked on the door. And I just grew up thinking, well, gosh, I guess that's how people are. Their mothers live behind padded doors. And then I would see other kids whose mothers didn't live behind padded doors. And my parents had separate bedrooms.
And so my experience was she lived at the end of the hall behind these two padded doors that there was no way she could hear me if I knocked on the door. And I just grew up thinking, well, gosh, I guess that's how people are. Their mothers live behind padded doors. And then I would see other kids whose mothers didn't live behind padded doors. And my parents had separate bedrooms.
And so my experience was she lived at the end of the hall behind these two padded doors that there was no way she could hear me if I knocked on the door. And I just grew up thinking, well, gosh, I guess that's how people are. Their mothers live behind padded doors. And then I would see other kids whose mothers didn't live behind padded doors. And my parents had separate bedrooms.
And I grew up like that. And I started to think later in life, like, what was she doing? doing behind those padded doors what was she trying to keep out what was she afraid of and um it brings me great grief to think of her behind the doors and to think of me and my brothers in front of the doors Yeah, trying to get in.
And I grew up like that. And I started to think later in life, like, what was she doing? doing behind those padded doors what was she trying to keep out what was she afraid of and um it brings me great grief to think of her behind the doors and to think of me and my brothers in front of the doors Yeah, trying to get in.
And I grew up like that. And I started to think later in life, like, what was she doing? doing behind those padded doors what was she trying to keep out what was she afraid of and um it brings me great grief to think of her behind the doors and to think of me and my brothers in front of the doors Yeah, trying to get in.
And I think that, you know, I think I started to think about in what way was I doing that? In what way did I have padded doors in my own life?
And I think that, you know, I think I started to think about in what way was I doing that? In what way did I have padded doors in my own life?
And I think that, you know, I think I started to think about in what way was I doing that? In what way did I have padded doors in my own life?
Well, you know, both of my uncles had been killed. So there was this feeling in my family that people were getting killed. And so I thought, well, we're all going to get killed.