Mariela (caller)

Hi.

Thank you so much for having me.

Well, there's a ton of things, but the main concern right now is my husband has been lying to me, and we've been working through baby step number two, but he's been hiding financial purchases that are really big.

How is he hiding them?

Um, well this past week I found out that the vehicle that we have been paying hundreds of dollars in this month, over a thousand in repairs, um, he had put a lien on it, um, several months ago, so we couldn't even scrap it this month.

Um, which we're down to one car now.

Um, and so that was one of the bigger lies recently.

He's been... He told me... Did he borrow against it?

That's my understanding.

Like he got...

a certain amount of money and then this is when we were starting to work together on the baby steps he said that we paid off some things using that money because I was asking him where did it go like why would you do that but he said he didn't feel like we had any money and so he went to one of those payday lenders who said we'll give you $3,000 but I'm holding the title of your car like a title max looks like an old pizza hut one of those places

I just learned all of this not very long ago.

And so we had also had, like, similar things happen in our relationship.

Like, with Lowe's, he spent thousands that I didn't know about there.

Yes.

Well, I talked to them not too long ago, um, because I received something in the mail.

Um, that was how I found out in the first place was the cards and was originally primarily in my name because we got, this was way like years ago when we first got married, we got a washer and dryer.

Then recently, like he purchased a lawnmower that was for him to use at his grandparents house.

Um,

and it was like $6,000, and I didn't even know he bought it.