Mark Manson

And then eventually everything will change over the course of months, maybe even years, depending on how deep that adaptation is in your consciousness.

But this isn't what anybody wants to hear.

Nobody buys a book or gets this far into a podcast because they're like, yeah, I want to spend the next 18 months like slowly chiseling away at myself.

The thing that is always sold to people and that everybody gets excited for is this idea of spontaneous, massive transformation.

And this does happen, but I think it happens in the circumstances and in a way that most people don't expect.

And if they really understood it,

they would not be excited to do it.

So for full transparency, this sort of like instantaneous, massive transformation, I've really only experienced it once in my life.

And

It happened when I was about 19 years old.

So a little bit of background.

When I was a teenager, I was pretty lazy, spoiled, entitled, depressed a lot of the time, smoked a lot of pot.

I wanted to be a musician, but I didn't really have the work ethic to like succeed as a musician.

Turns out being a musician is extremely difficult.

And I was kind of just floating through life.

And I was in music school.

It was not going well.

I was pretty sure I was going to drop out.

And I had a really good friend by the name of Josh.

And Josh was much more extroverted than I was.