Mark Manson

So I was going out all the time and it is self-report, self-identification, right?

So they ask you questions like,

You know, when you're at a party, are you standing on the corner by yourself against the wall or are you in the middle of the room talking to lots of people?

And I like spent many years intentionally training myself to be the guy in the middle of the room talking to lots of people, even though it didn't come naturally to me.

And so what would happen is that I would start answering that question differently in my 20s, which would then trigger a report of high extroversion.

And then interestingly, once I got married and settled down and, you know,

started going to bed at nine like an old man, now I show up as an introvert again.

We're going to get into the explanations of like why this happens, right?

Because you could look at that, you could say like, well, that's me changing, right?

Changing throughout my life.

It's like, okay, well, what changed?

Did I actually ever stop being an introvert?

Or did I just become an introvert that like trained himself to behave as an extrovert for a certain period of time and in a certain context?

And Michel and Fliessen would argue,

Yes, that's what I did.

There were certain contexts where I learned that it was adaptable to be more extroverted.

And we're going to get it all into what those adaptations are and how you can develop them for yourself.

You are very easygoing.

It's interesting because we've worked together for a long time.

I know that when you speak up and disapprove of something, I'm like, okay, it must be bad.