Mark Manson

when you have your first fight, really pay attention to how it goes. Because if you fight well, meaning if you make up quickly, forgive each other quickly, compromise quickly, move on quickly, and there's no bad blood, people don't resent each other, people aren't bringing up an argument from four months ago to score a point against each other.

when you have your first fight, really pay attention to how it goes. Because if you fight well, meaning if you make up quickly, forgive each other quickly, compromise quickly, move on quickly, and there's no bad blood, people don't resent each other, people aren't bringing up an argument from four months ago to score a point against each other.

when you have your first fight, really pay attention to how it goes. Because if you fight well, meaning if you make up quickly, forgive each other quickly, compromise quickly, move on quickly, and there's no bad blood, people don't resent each other, people aren't bringing up an argument from four months ago to score a point against each other.

when you have your first fight, really pay attention to how it goes. Because if you fight well, meaning if you make up quickly, forgive each other quickly, compromise quickly, move on quickly, and there's no bad blood, people don't resent each other, people aren't bringing up an argument from four months ago to score a point against each other.

If you fight well, if the fights are productive and relatively quick, That's the magic sign. That's the sign of like, this has legs. This is going to last for a long time. Because every couple fights, every couple disagrees about dumb stuff. The question is, are you able to move beyond the dumb stuff and not take it personally and not escalate things?

If you fight well, if the fights are productive and relatively quick, That's the magic sign. That's the sign of like, this has legs. This is going to last for a long time. Because every couple fights, every couple disagrees about dumb stuff. The question is, are you able to move beyond the dumb stuff and not take it personally and not escalate things?

If you fight well, if the fights are productive and relatively quick, That's the magic sign. That's the sign of like, this has legs. This is going to last for a long time. Because every couple fights, every couple disagrees about dumb stuff. The question is, are you able to move beyond the dumb stuff and not take it personally and not escalate things?

If you fight well, if the fights are productive and relatively quick, That's the magic sign. That's the sign of like, this has legs. This is going to last for a long time. Because every couple fights, every couple disagrees about dumb stuff. The question is, are you able to move beyond the dumb stuff and not take it personally and not escalate things?

If you fight well, if the fights are productive and relatively quick, That's the magic sign. That's the sign of like, this has legs. This is going to last for a long time. Because every couple fights, every couple disagrees about dumb stuff. The question is, are you able to move beyond the dumb stuff and not take it personally and not escalate things?

Oh my God, I love that metaphor. Here you go. It's like buying a single stock and holding it for 30 years is going to give you much better returns than buying and selling stocks every single day. Not only because you're probably going to buy and sell the wrong ones, but the friction costs, all the fees, the carry costs and the brokerage fees and everything, it's going to eat your portfolio alive.

Oh my God, I love that metaphor. Here you go. It's like buying a single stock and holding it for 30 years is going to give you much better returns than buying and selling stocks every single day. Not only because you're probably going to buy and sell the wrong ones, but the friction costs, all the fees, the carry costs and the brokerage fees and everything, it's going to eat your portfolio alive.

Oh my God, I love that metaphor. Here you go. It's like buying a single stock and holding it for 30 years is going to give you much better returns than buying and selling stocks every single day. Not only because you're probably going to buy and sell the wrong ones, but the friction costs, all the fees, the carry costs and the brokerage fees and everything, it's going to eat your portfolio alive.

Oh my God, I love that metaphor. Here you go. It's like buying a single stock and holding it for 30 years is going to give you much better returns than buying and selling stocks every single day. Not only because you're probably going to buy and sell the wrong ones, but the friction costs, all the fees, the carry costs and the brokerage fees and everything, it's going to eat your portfolio alive.

Oh my God, I love that metaphor. Here you go. It's like buying a single stock and holding it for 30 years is going to give you much better returns than buying and selling stocks every single day. Not only because you're probably going to buy and sell the wrong ones, but the friction costs, all the fees, the carry costs and the brokerage fees and everything, it's going to eat your portfolio alive.

So yeah, buy and hold.

So yeah, buy and hold.

So yeah, buy and hold.

So yeah, buy and hold.

So yeah, buy and hold.

It's funny because I wrote a dating book early in my career. And I think one of the first things I say in that dating book is that the only real dating advice is self-improvement. Everything else is either a detail or a distraction. I still believe that. The best thing you can do as a single person to increase your opportunities...