Mark Manson

Okay.

Then my expected value.

No, it's just a vibe.

And it turns out that most of our decisions, beliefs, worldviews, we experience them as vibes.

They are happening below the surface.

Like if this was a trilogy, this is where the unconscious strikes back.

Because what happens in our three-layer cake of who you are, right?

At the base layer, we are our personality traits.

Our personality traits are a range of expected behaviors that tend to happen more often

When those personality traits interact with the world, we develop certain if-then patterns to adapt to the environment around us.

If I'm a very low extroversion person, right, I'm introverted, I'm a little bit socially anxious, and I keep being thrown into an environment with a lot of people around me.

I'm going to develop certain if-then patterns in my behavior and my thoughts and my emotions that help me adapt to the environment around me.

And because I'm introverted, those adaptations are probably going to look very different than, say, an extroverted person in the same situation.

So let's say you're a really highly agreeable person.

That means that you're probably going to be conflict avoidant, right?

You're going to be very uncomfortable dealing with confrontation.

And let's say that you are in a workplace that is very confrontational.

It's very, a lot of status games going on, a lot of people talking shit, a lot of office politics.

you're gonna develop an adaptation to that environment as a highly agreeable person.

You're probably gonna try to stay out of things.