Martha Stewish

Because it's the hen do.

It's the, we're going overseas for this.

It's now you must get a new dress.

You must get accommodation for the wedding.

All these things is...

you don't have a choice in how you spend your money.

So it doesn't even feel that nice to spend it in that way because someone's just telling you that you have to.

And number two, when you add all those things up, that's like, can be like a thousand pounds.

you're so right.

Yeah, it's really sad.

It is the feeling of not choosing.

Yeah, it's a horrible feeling.

It is a horrible feeling.

You did everything you can to get that money into your bank account and then someone else decides how that gets spent.

I've always done this and a lot of my friends do it too.

If it's your birthday, you host people at your house and you pay for the drinks and the snacks and stuff because first of all, it usually works out cheaper.

And second of all, it's not an imposition on any of your friends because, you know, if those 10 people, if everyone in that group has to now go and do that for one of those people in that group, 10 times 100 is 1,000 pounds that they've spent on group dinners.

is so much money and such a good point how did you figure out the things that you don't care about or don't want to spend money on by looking through my bank statement and feeling that feeling of regret for certain pounds coming out of my account and what for you is the stuff that is just i'm not going to spend money on that it's just a flat out no clothing

A huge one for me.

Like any... I don't really buy clothing very often.