Massimo Pigliucci

This is called the danger of doormatism, of turning yourself into a doormat so that everybody walks all over you.

That's not the point.

marcus says explicitly there are two things you can do when somebody's behaving in a way that you disapprove of one is to teach them to explain to them you know look this is problematic because and then failing that you can bear with them you can you can use your ability to uh your patience your ability to withstand things as a result because what else are you going to do right

Those are pretty much your two options.

So you just have to, it's not that the two are incompatible.

Of course, you're going to argue and you're going to try to do things in order to improve the situation.

But if that fails, then you have to accept that, okay, this time reality didn't go my way.

Too bad.

Yep, exactly.

So he's saying, look, there are certain things that inevitably have certain consequences.

if you are in the business of working wood, well, there's going to be sawdust.

So you cannot complain.

You cannot reasonably complain.

You could complain, but it's not reasonable to complain about all the dust in the shop because that's an inevitable byproduct of the fact that you're working wood.

And so similarly, to complain about the fact that some people behave irrationally or inconsiderately or rudely or whatever it is under certain circumstances,

It's like, what, have you never met human beings before?

Don't you know that this is the way it works?

which incidentally doesn't mean that people always do that, right?

Or that they're incorrigible.

So that's why Marcus says, you go and teach them, talk to them, right?