Matt Abrahams

We are very good at detecting people who are putting on those airs. But it's hard to disentangle those two. What you do and how you do it are mixed very closely.

We are very good at detecting people who are putting on those airs. But it's hard to disentangle those two. What you do and how you do it are mixed very closely.

We are very good at detecting people who are putting on those airs. But it's hard to disentangle those two. What you do and how you do it are mixed very closely.

I 100% agree with that. What we know from research is if somebody comes out and says, oh, I'm so nervous, please forgive me. What we're hoping for is that people will give you a little bit of a pass, lower their bar. But in fact, all you do is oversensitize them to pay attention to anything you do that you're nervous. So you're actually working against yourself. So I often advise people,

I 100% agree with that. What we know from research is if somebody comes out and says, oh, I'm so nervous, please forgive me. What we're hoping for is that people will give you a little bit of a pass, lower their bar. But in fact, all you do is oversensitize them to pay attention to anything you do that you're nervous. So you're actually working against yourself. So I often advise people,

I 100% agree with that. What we know from research is if somebody comes out and says, oh, I'm so nervous, please forgive me. What we're hoping for is that people will give you a little bit of a pass, lower their bar. But in fact, all you do is oversensitize them to pay attention to anything you do that you're nervous. So you're actually working against yourself. So I often advise people,

to connect with your audience, but don't pre-apologize. My wife, long time ago, disabused me of the ability to pre-apologize. So, you know, don't do it. Just come out and start the talk. Now, if there is something in the room, in the space, I do agree, if it's super hot in there, acknowledge it. Don't try to pretend. But don't pre-apologize for being nervous. That just sets you up for failure.

to connect with your audience, but don't pre-apologize. My wife, long time ago, disabused me of the ability to pre-apologize. So, you know, don't do it. Just come out and start the talk. Now, if there is something in the room, in the space, I do agree, if it's super hot in there, acknowledge it. Don't try to pretend. But don't pre-apologize for being nervous. That just sets you up for failure.

to connect with your audience, but don't pre-apologize. My wife, long time ago, disabused me of the ability to pre-apologize. So, you know, don't do it. Just come out and start the talk. Now, if there is something in the room, in the space, I do agree, if it's super hot in there, acknowledge it. Don't try to pretend. But don't pre-apologize for being nervous. That just sets you up for failure.

Very interesting.

Very interesting.

Very interesting.

I agree with you. That's the best way for me is to talk to other people. What I do when I don't have that opportunity, I say tongue twisters. I say the same tongue twister three times out loud. It warms up my voice and it also helps me get present oriented. Remember, being present oriented allows you to connect, gets you out of your head.

I agree with you. That's the best way for me is to talk to other people. What I do when I don't have that opportunity, I say tongue twisters. I say the same tongue twister three times out loud. It warms up my voice and it also helps me get present oriented. Remember, being present oriented allows you to connect, gets you out of your head.

I agree with you. That's the best way for me is to talk to other people. What I do when I don't have that opportunity, I say tongue twisters. I say the same tongue twister three times out loud. It warms up my voice and it also helps me get present oriented. Remember, being present oriented allows you to connect, gets you out of your head.

So I will say, in fact, I said before you and I connected today, I said my favorite one, I slid a sheet, a sheet I slit, and on that slitted sheet I sit. And I say it three times fast. And the challenge in saying that one is if you say it wrong, you say a naughty word. And so it forces me to focus. Warming up is important.

So I will say, in fact, I said before you and I connected today, I said my favorite one, I slid a sheet, a sheet I slit, and on that slitted sheet I sit. And I say it three times fast. And the challenge in saying that one is if you say it wrong, you say a naughty word. And so it forces me to focus. Warming up is important.

So I will say, in fact, I said before you and I connected today, I said my favorite one, I slid a sheet, a sheet I slit, and on that slitted sheet I sit. And I say it three times fast. And the challenge in saying that one is if you say it wrong, you say a naughty word. And so it forces me to focus. Warming up is important.

Anybody who does a sport, anybody who exercises, you know that warming up is important. You need to warm up your voice. We have this idea that we can go from silence to brilliance easily, and that's not the case.

Anybody who does a sport, anybody who exercises, you know that warming up is important. You need to warm up your voice. We have this idea that we can go from silence to brilliance easily, and that's not the case.