Maureen Callahan

It's one thing to be hashtag relationship goals, but it's another to tell the truth about what it takes.

And I tend to do that when I talk about the challenges of marriage and that it's not all that.

It's like, I love my husband.

I like my husband.

But

We also want to be a part of helping couples understand that it does take work and is hard, even in the best marriages.

These are what we call lies.

And it gets easier over time.

I mean, I've been saying this a lot.

It's like I'm 62 now and it wasn't until...

my 50s, that I felt like I could claim what I know.

I think that may be a woman thing.

Men are encouraged to... You're a man at 20.

It's like you don't know anything.

You both were the men in high school.

You didn't know anything.

You're handed that, you know, you're encouraged to be that, right?

Whereas us as women, we're always second guessing ourselves and wondering, he doesn't really like me.

We don't get to make the first move sometimes in life, you know?

And I'm trying to figure out what that is because it's not that I wasn't confident, but it took me a while to be like, I know what I'm talking about.