Meg Jay

What they're really afraid of is not being asked the tough questions.

And maybe that's because they've told the world that they're interested in having courageous conversations about race and class and politics and the environment.

And perhaps at any age, one of the most courageous conversations you can have

is with your future self.

Thank you.

Thank you so much, Meg.

Oh, yes.

I mean, I think our 20s is when we first start having to sort of figure out, oh, there's a future self out there.

And I guess I better think about that person because, you know, like school kind of does it for us, you know, has us plot, you know, two or three years in advance.

So our 20s are when we first start to think across those horizons.

We get better at it over time.

And then in our 30s, 40s, 50s, we have more built-in connections to the future.

Like maybe if you have kids, you think, hey, I really want to be around when they graduate from college or whatever the case may be.

So it becomes a little bit more natural the older that you get, but it's always important.

I have...

a couple in my practice right now, and they're actually having a conversation with their future relationship because in about five years, their kids are going to be leaving for college and they want to be sure they have a marriage they feel good about when the kids are gone.

Or if I think about myself, I'm 51.

So I'm having a conversation with my future self about, hey, what do I want to get out of the years of my career that are just ahead in my 50s?

And time's running out.

What is it I want to get done?