Megyn Kelly

But we threw out the baby with the bathwater when we tried to reform some of the more sexist elements of society.

And we believed a lie that really the whole problem we were suffering from was just men in general, as opposed to a couple of behaviors that we wanted to evolve from.

That's exactly what happened.

You know, on the relationship front, Dr. Phil wrote a book many years ago called Relationship Rescue.

And I was in the middle of a bad relationship at the time and I read it cover to cover and it's really stuck with me ever since.

But one of the questions he asked in that book was about a couple arguing, you know, any hypothetical couple.

And it's like, well, I think this, well, I think that.

And you're fighting and you win.

You win the argument.

and you feel great because you won, you were the superior one.

And he asked the question, how can you win when the person you love most in the world is losing?

And I love that question.

It's exactly right.

Like if you truly love somebody, you're not looking to defeat them.

You don't feel better when you've quote beaten them.

The only way of winning is either not to play, not to play the argument or to find a way where both of you feel good at the end.

And I think that's a general philosophy for life too when it comes to dating and being with somebody of the opposite sex.

Like the whole goal should be to lift them up, to wake up in the morning asking yourself how you can make their life better.

And ideally for it to work well, they're asking themselves that same question about you.

And the way a great argument should go is like,