Mel Robbins

And there's a couple things that I want to point out that I'm sure that you picked up on, and maybe you've experienced this yourself.

Maybe somebody that you love is going through this.

You know, when she said that she can't get out of the loop in her head that she's constantly stuck in, when she said that, I feel like I shouldn't have left my ex, and that in this constant loop of regret—

That's what she's living in.

That's the trap.

She's not ready to change because her reality right now is regret.

What is the decision that Kristen needs to make?

Because there is so much power in a decision.

If she's been living in regret in the constant loop over a breakup with her ex, in my mind, the decision is very obvious.

You have to make a decision to move forward.

You have to say this next chapter of my life is going to be one of the best chapters of my life because I'm going to create that for myself.

And in particular, when you're dealing with regret, the research is very clear on this.

Daniel Pink is a multiple New York Times bestselling author and considered one of the most influential thinkers of our time.

And recently, he led one of the largest studies ever on the topic of regret.

And he says regret is not meant to bury you.

It's not meant to punish you.

It's meant to teach you something you need to learn.

But you can only learn what regret has to teach you if you stop replaying things and start asking yourself, what is the regret trying to show you?

As long as you keep looking backward,

Your life will never move forward.