Melinda French Gates

I'll take a friendship in particular without naming names, but a close girlfriend where I've known this person a long time.

They're a truth teller.

I'm a truth teller to her.

But we just—

You know, we bungle some things sometimes.

We hurt one another.

And it takes me time to kind of process what happened there.

How do I forgive that?

How do I tell her what I need?

How do I own my part of it?

And it takes time to do that, right?

And time alone, sometimes away from them while you stay in touch with them.

But ultimately, I really seek forgiveness with everybody because...

If you can't eventually forgive somebody, then you hurt yourself, I think, right?

And I don't want to live my life hurting myself.

So there's some people in my life I can even think from my way past who they did some things to really hurt me.

Let's just say early 20s.

But I forgive them, but I don't need to be in touch with them anymore, right?

Just because I forgive doesn't mean I need to be close to them or in my life.

But if I can forgive what happened and also try a little bit and see their side of it, then I can move on.