Melissa Doman

about their capacity and letting them know about where they are, to me, that's a lot more constructive long-term as opposed to people having to guess what the person is feeling, having to mentally protect themselves.

So they don't get something put towards them at the wrong place or time.

To me, informing people is so much more constructive than trying to hide and having them fill in the blanks and having it destroy the relationship.

So it's all about the delivery.

And I think there's a lot of missed opportunities.

And this is not leaders only.

This is people.

Yeah.

where we're not taught, many people are not taught to not only talk about their struggles, but to also pair it with what they're going to do.

How many people do you meet where you're like, oh, my parents taught me that when I have a big feeling, I named the big feeling.

And then I talk about what I'm going to do to manage the big feeling.

How many people do that?

Like no one.

So we have we have to learn these skills as an adult.

And then if other people don't do it, they may feel confused.

They may feel jealous that you know how to do it and they don't.

But this is the healthy thing to do to talk about the completely normal emotion and pair it with the action.

So that people don't just think you're venting for the sake of venting without being accountable for managing that experience and the stress footprint it can put on other people.

A hundred percent.

You know, if we think about the concept of catharsis, the natural releasing of repressed emotions, you know, every human being needs to do that.