Melissa Doman

So they're not being resilient while actually unintentionally harming themselves.

So I think there is a kind of a misunderstanding of what the term really means, especially because it's become so popular and so widely used in so many well-being programs in the workplace.

But the problem is that there are some workplaces, and we're not supposed to say this, where they use resilience training programs really as a cover program.

for pushing people beyond their limits and helping them think that the side effects of that are just part of the process.

So I think that might be what's getting missed.

It is a very fine line.

It is paper thin.

So I think that there's a difference between experiencing discomfort and experiencing stress.

Now people often forget stress in itself is neutral.

That's when we encounter a stimulus that requires adjustment or response.

You can have too much good stress, too much bad stress.

You know, our bodies and brains let us know when we're going past that limit.

So I think that fine line between resilience versus emotional suppression is when you start seeing deviations from your standard behavior, your standard thought patterns, your standard interactions with other people, you can be resilient.

while not suppressing emotions.

They're not mutually exclusive.

You can be resilient and addressing something that's difficult and also identifying, acknowledging, and sitting in the feelings that come up through that.

Because if you're trying to be resilient and saying, oh, I can't feel these negative emotions that Gloria Wilcox talks about on the feeling wheel, then they're actually working against themselves because emotional suppression is not a healthy...

facet to add to the process of trying to be resilient.

Oh, yes.

That might be a little bit of a long answer.