Melissa Vranjes

You don't want to make him feel bad.

Okay.

Well, first thing off is don't worry about making him feel bad because that's when we just have obligation, obligatory sex.

Oh, okay.

Okay.

First thing I want you to do is...

Just check in with your body.

Is there a willingness that I could be available for this later on?

Like he seems like he's in the mood.

Could you?

And if the answer is still no, then you're going to communicate that and say something along the lines of like, I would love to rain check this for next week.

And do you know what?

If you have a relationship where you openly communicate and your partner knows that you've said, look, once a week, that's it, babe.

I feel if there's any time, if I'm available for more, then I'll initiate.

But I think what's really key is you being able to go once a week, that's it, babe.

Anything else, I feel so okay with you masturbating or having a wank or whatever.

like let's just keep the channels open about that it would feel really good for me for you to tell me when you have a wank if it does if it doesn't who cares he doesn't need to tell you but again when there's like that open comms around it then you wouldn't have to deal with that you know if he knows that once a week's your jam that's it then

Woo.

Yeah.

I mean, there is some, like, play around that.