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Melissa

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The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

Tell me about the relationship or relationship that fucked you up. So, I mean, I think the biggest one is obviously my last marriage or my only marriage that ended. So that was a situation where from start to finish, it was not good. I probably should have walked away from it a lot earlier. I met this person out of college. We were together for about five or six years before we got married.

The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

We were married for a little under eight years. I had my two boys. But the relationship itself was incredibly strange. And I for years would deal with. I've heard a lot of narcissistic talk and labeling. So I'm sensitive to the use of that word. But I was dealing with someone who truly battled demons. And I got sucked into that world and had a really hard time with this person for several years.

The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

We were married for a little under eight years. I had my two boys. But the relationship itself was incredibly strange. And I for years would deal with. I've heard a lot of narcissistic talk and labeling. So I'm sensitive to the use of that word. But I was dealing with someone who truly battled demons. And I got sucked into that world and had a really hard time with this person for several years.

The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

We were married for a little under eight years. I had my two boys. But the relationship itself was incredibly strange. And I for years would deal with. I've heard a lot of narcissistic talk and labeling. So I'm sensitive to the use of that word. But I was dealing with someone who truly battled demons. And I got sucked into that world and had a really hard time with this person for several years.

The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

And I had threatened divorce. I felt very trapped. I felt very like, what do I do? I have two boys. How do I get out of this? It was very miserable for a very long time. And I didn't know how to get out of it. But the nail in the coffin was at the end of our relationship, he acknowledged being in love with someone else and wanting to end our marriage.

The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

And I had threatened divorce. I felt very trapped. I felt very like, what do I do? I have two boys. How do I get out of this? It was very miserable for a very long time. And I didn't know how to get out of it. But the nail in the coffin was at the end of our relationship, he acknowledged being in love with someone else and wanting to end our marriage.

The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

And I had threatened divorce. I felt very trapped. I felt very like, what do I do? I have two boys. How do I get out of this? It was very miserable for a very long time. And I didn't know how to get out of it. But the nail in the coffin was at the end of our relationship, he acknowledged being in love with someone else and wanting to end our marriage.

The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

And in a way, of course, that broke me and that trust in a way, it set me free. But because of that, Ich habe dann versucht, meine Person zu finden. Aber das war wirklich, das war wirklich schwer, weil ich mir so viel gegeben habe, dass ich für diese, weißt du, fast eineinhalb Jahrzehnte, ähm, ich wurde, was diese Person mir sein musste, um diese Beziehung zu überleben.

The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

And in a way, of course, that broke me and that trust in a way, it set me free. But because of that, Ich habe dann versucht, meine Person zu finden. Aber das war wirklich, das war wirklich schwer, weil ich mir so viel gegeben habe, dass ich für diese, weißt du, fast eineinhalb Jahrzehnte, ähm, ich wurde, was diese Person mir sein musste, um diese Beziehung zu überleben.

The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

And in a way, of course, that broke me and that trust in a way, it set me free. But because of that, Ich habe dann versucht, meine Person zu finden. Aber das war wirklich, das war wirklich schwer, weil ich mir so viel gegeben habe, dass ich für diese, weißt du, fast eineinhalb Jahrzehnte, ähm, ich wurde, was diese Person mir sein musste, um diese Beziehung zu überleben.

The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

Und so, als das nicht mehr in der Bildung war, war es, um herauszufinden, wer ich war. Nach dieser Beziehung. Wie lange hat die Beziehung endet? Die Versammlung. was in the summer of 2022. But the divorce process took a little over two years. So it's still pretty raw. It's pretty raw in that it didn't just end and then I moved on and had a happy life.

The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

Und so, als das nicht mehr in der Bildung war, war es, um herauszufinden, wer ich war. Nach dieser Beziehung. Wie lange hat die Beziehung endet? Die Versammlung. was in the summer of 2022. But the divorce process took a little over two years. So it's still pretty raw. It's pretty raw in that it didn't just end and then I moved on and had a happy life.

The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

Und so, als das nicht mehr in der Bildung war, war es, um herauszufinden, wer ich war. Nach dieser Beziehung. Wie lange hat die Beziehung endet? Die Versammlung. was in the summer of 2022. But the divorce process took a little over two years. So it's still pretty raw. It's pretty raw in that it didn't just end and then I moved on and had a happy life.

The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

It dragged on and with wounds getting reopened along the way. And he's still with that person. They have a child. So yeah, it's still pretty fresh, relatively speaking.

The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

It dragged on and with wounds getting reopened along the way. And he's still with that person. They have a child. So yeah, it's still pretty fresh, relatively speaking.

The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

It dragged on and with wounds getting reopened along the way. And he's still with that person. They have a child. So yeah, it's still pretty fresh, relatively speaking.

The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

I'm guessing these are all... Yeah, those are all the emotions. And then you add a layer of having children with this person. And then now you have that, when I say that though, if I say something like, I wish I would have left so much sooner, am I... Am I sacrificing the love I have for the two boys I got out of it? Because obviously they're my life and I love them.

The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

I'm guessing these are all... Yeah, those are all the emotions. And then you add a layer of having children with this person. And then now you have that, when I say that though, if I say something like, I wish I would have left so much sooner, am I... Am I sacrificing the love I have for the two boys I got out of it? Because obviously they're my life and I love them.

The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

I'm guessing these are all... Yeah, those are all the emotions. And then you add a layer of having children with this person. And then now you have that, when I say that though, if I say something like, I wish I would have left so much sooner, am I... Am I sacrificing the love I have for the two boys I got out of it? Because obviously they're my life and I love them.

The Viall Files
E939 Ask Nick - Revenge Dating

So there's so many layers to that acknowledgement of I think I messed up by not getting out sooner.