Melody Beattie

How do you- Raising kids is one of the few legitimate circumstances that most closely resembles codependency, only it's legitimate. Thank you.

I know. And it's our job to love that baby through life and into life, which is also our job with us.

I know. And it's our job to love that baby through life and into life, which is also our job with us.

I know. And it's our job to love that baby through life and into life, which is also our job with us.

And I believe we all do. Who doesn't like being needed a little bit?

And I believe we all do. Who doesn't like being needed a little bit?

And I believe we all do. Who doesn't like being needed a little bit?

You know, now and again, if nobody needs us, if we're not part of a community that would miss us if we weren't there, but we can set up systems where the need is there. I mean, it's a crazy, chaotic, pounding need that we've created of people leaning on us and us getting resentful. And why does this always happen to me? Well, because you keep doing it.

You know, now and again, if nobody needs us, if we're not part of a community that would miss us if we weren't there, but we can set up systems where the need is there. I mean, it's a crazy, chaotic, pounding need that we've created of people leaning on us and us getting resentful. And why does this always happen to me? Well, because you keep doing it.

You know, now and again, if nobody needs us, if we're not part of a community that would miss us if we weren't there, but we can set up systems where the need is there. I mean, it's a crazy, chaotic, pounding need that we've created of people leaning on us and us getting resentful. And why does this always happen to me? Well, because you keep doing it.

It's not about pleasing anything or anyone outside of ourselves, just ourselves, our own heart, our own peace, our own life. That's pretty much who we're here to please. It's not as easy said as done though, because we have to get to know ourselves, don't we? To know what pleases us, what doesn't please us, what we'd like, what feels good, what doesn't feel good. And then when does it matter?

It's not about pleasing anything or anyone outside of ourselves, just ourselves, our own heart, our own peace, our own life. That's pretty much who we're here to please. It's not as easy said as done though, because we have to get to know ourselves, don't we? To know what pleases us, what doesn't please us, what we'd like, what feels good, what doesn't feel good. And then when does it matter?

It's not about pleasing anything or anyone outside of ourselves, just ourselves, our own heart, our own peace, our own life. That's pretty much who we're here to please. It's not as easy said as done though, because we have to get to know ourselves, don't we? To know what pleases us, what doesn't please us, what we'd like, what feels good, what doesn't feel good. And then when does it matter?

Because there's a lot of times when, you know, life will break our boundaries. It will do things to us we didn't want it to do, we didn't plan on and that aren't fair and aren't right. But we have a choice and we can go back to our victim's story. or we can surrender and we'll probably do some of both along the way. Life is messy. It's complicated.

Because there's a lot of times when, you know, life will break our boundaries. It will do things to us we didn't want it to do, we didn't plan on and that aren't fair and aren't right. But we have a choice and we can go back to our victim's story. or we can surrender and we'll probably do some of both along the way. Life is messy. It's complicated.

Because there's a lot of times when, you know, life will break our boundaries. It will do things to us we didn't want it to do, we didn't plan on and that aren't fair and aren't right. But we have a choice and we can go back to our victim's story. or we can surrender and we'll probably do some of both along the way. Life is messy. It's complicated.

It doesn't happen neatly the way it does in books and movies. It's just much messier than that. And yet when we give up our control, And this thing we have with needing to know how everything is and how every detail will work out when we're willing to say, I don't know, and step into the unknown is when we find the magic. We really do. That's when the magic happens.

It doesn't happen neatly the way it does in books and movies. It's just much messier than that. And yet when we give up our control, And this thing we have with needing to know how everything is and how every detail will work out when we're willing to say, I don't know, and step into the unknown is when we find the magic. We really do. That's when the magic happens.

It doesn't happen neatly the way it does in books and movies. It's just much messier than that. And yet when we give up our control, And this thing we have with needing to know how everything is and how every detail will work out when we're willing to say, I don't know, and step into the unknown is when we find the magic. We really do. That's when the magic happens.

What is detachment? Probably the first thing we need to learn to do at the beginning of our recovery journey and every day when we wake up. I am a Gemini. I get really obsessive. I like to attach. I attach to ideas. I'm overly loyal. I will hang on to people, places, and things long after they've lost their usefulness.