Mireille Silcoff

There is something real happening here with women who are older, and it has to do with power. It doesn't have to do with being like a young person. It has to do with being like an older person.

There is something real happening here with women who are older, and it has to do with power. It doesn't have to do with being like a young person. It has to do with being like an older person.

I remember, like, I don't know, it must have been around my 49th birthday or something like that. Walking around, I was having quite a bit of sex and just thinking, like, Everybody in the world is having sex.

I remember, like, I don't know, it must have been around my 49th birthday or something like that. Walking around, I was having quite a bit of sex and just thinking, like, Everybody in the world is having sex.

Like, why are we talking about analingus? How is this a thing?

Like, why are we talking about analingus? How is this a thing?

I was absolutely certain that everybody except the type of women I was writing about who are women like me would freaking hate this piece.

I was absolutely certain that everybody except the type of women I was writing about who are women like me would freaking hate this piece.

And that was the surprising thing to me was that really the piece was widely appreciated by all different types of women, according to the comments, you know, some men as well, and across the generational spectrum, which to an extent is what I was going for, right?

And that was the surprising thing to me was that really the piece was widely appreciated by all different types of women, according to the comments, you know, some men as well, and across the generational spectrum, which to an extent is what I was going for, right?

I wanted to show that middle age might be something that women who are younger than Gen X, which is the cohort that I wrote about the most in this piece, can look forward to. who were you expecting the most ire from? Two groups. Number one, the experience of many women in their 50s is not a highly sexual experience.

I wanted to show that middle age might be something that women who are younger than Gen X, which is the cohort that I wrote about the most in this piece, can look forward to. who were you expecting the most ire from? Two groups. Number one, the experience of many women in their 50s is not a highly sexual experience.

Many women in their 50s have been in very long marriages, and we all know what can happen to sex in very long marriages. You know, people have health concerns. Some people grow disinterested in sex. Menopause has effects as well. So a highly sexual 50-something woman might... might be super irritating as an archetype to women who aren't feeling that way.

Many women in their 50s have been in very long marriages, and we all know what can happen to sex in very long marriages. You know, people have health concerns. Some people grow disinterested in sex. Menopause has effects as well. So a highly sexual 50-something woman might... might be super irritating as an archetype to women who aren't feeling that way.

So that was one group that I thought would be hate readers, and they weren't. And then the second group that I thought would be hate readers are millennials and Gen Z. who I describe in the piece as having much less frequent sex and much less active sex lives than Gen X women or even boomers were having at their age.

So that was one group that I thought would be hate readers, and they weren't. And then the second group that I thought would be hate readers are millennials and Gen Z. who I describe in the piece as having much less frequent sex and much less active sex lives than Gen X women or even boomers were having at their age.

And so I felt like there might be some bad feeling from the younger generation of women that they might feel like I was calling them out as not having good sex lives or not having the same prowess. Like, you know, I just thought that that might be annoying.

And so I felt like there might be some bad feeling from the younger generation of women that they might feel like I was calling them out as not having good sex lives or not having the same prowess. Like, you know, I just thought that that might be annoying.

And in fact, what happened with many millennial women in particular wrote to me and said that they loved reading the piece so much because they felt like it gave them something to look forward to, that sex might come into your life in a different way at an unexpected time later in life, that that is a new possibility. Right.

And in fact, what happened with many millennial women in particular wrote to me and said that they loved reading the piece so much because they felt like it gave them something to look forward to, that sex might come into your life in a different way at an unexpected time later in life, that that is a new possibility. Right.