Ms. Pat

But, you know, if she had, for instance, they had a man that was taking care of them and they didn't want their world to be rocked, I would say in a black community, some people looked away.

When I was born in 72, I think people started to speak out a little bit more.

Yeah.

But, yeah.

How much of that, how much of your trauma do you turn into...

All of it.

All of it.

I talk about any and everything that ever happened to me.

If I can remember it, I try to talk about it.

Because, you know, if it comes up, it always come up as pain.

And my way of controlling it is to find the funny in it.

Because if I don't, I could be somewhere sitting and crying about it.

So I just told myself a long time ago, I can't change what people done to me.

I can't change the family that I was born into.

You know, I can't change.

I can't change anything.

The past is the past.

But what I can do is I can learn how to take control of my life.

So anything comes up that I can remember, I talk about it.

And I've had my husband be like, why the hell do you tell these stories?