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how lame it comes across i sometimes don't like to tell guys about this thing that i have where i'm like you know this is separate than the soulmate thing like i don't care if a guy has a sexual connection with a girl and like he was to use protection and just have sex with her for a night like i don't i literally wouldn't care if my husband did that i don't i don't know why i don't know why if he were to like watch the wire

or do crossword puzzles or like text up, like send memes and stuff.

I would be like, what the fuck are you doing?

Like, that's our thing.

Like emotional cheating would hurt me, but like physical, I'm just like,

I kind of, I just feel like I understand how sex is for men.

Most of the time outside of relationship, it's just kind of transactional and it's just like, they just want to nut.

And it's not about like, I want to spend my life with this woman.

So it wouldn't feel, I just, I don't know.

I just wouldn't care as much.

So our barometer is no emotional cheating.

yeah totally physically cheating is good but i understand emotional cheating like if something were to happen where i would want them to tell me about it i would be obviously hurt but i would understand being drawn to someone else that you have a good connection with because it's like it's hard to when you just find someone and it's monogamy your brain doesn't turn off he's still gonna be attracted to other women he's still gonna like right be interested in other girls and have good conversations and stuff so i could see something developing and i would be heartbroken that it happened especially if it went on without me knowing about it but i would i would

it i would always ask anyone i was with to be like if you develop feelings for the violence tell me and we'll deal with it like i just don't want to be blindsided but if you want to have sex with someone else also tell me about it because i want to like see what she looks like and like ask you about it okay wait hold on so do you identify as like poly or like open relationship girly like another girlfriend i don't want and i don't want to like be in bed with you guys together okay not even in the same room no i don't want to like be and i don't want to be in the chair in the corner like cuckold is like oh my god

I just want to hear about it later.

Okay.

You call this the hot husband fetish.

Yes.

Which is essentially when you want your partner to have sexual experiences with other people outside of the relationship.

Yeah.

So when did this start for you, Nikki?