Nadine Higgins

I don't know if it's just me, but I have encountered a lot of people who are quite dismissive of the idea that your mindset and your relationship with money impacts how successful you might be with it.

So what is the connection, Rachel?

Is it as provable as if you've got a bad money mindset, you're going to have bad money outcomes?

Yeah.

Driven by fear and greed, as they say, right?

Yeah, just optimism.

A feeling.

Yeah.

I mean, and that probably puts into sharper relief then if you're not great with numbers or a spreadsheet, you know, you get excited about that.

You can still be good with money if 80% of it's actually emotional.

So if I do have a few of those beliefs, whether they're what my parents told me or showed me or, you know, what kids picked on me about in the playground, how do I isolate the problematic thoughts?

And maybe this is another question for you, Rach, given that you're the therapist.

How do I work out the bits that are problematic?

in the first instance?

Feels hard from the outset because I immediately go, oh, you know, I do this unhelpful thing.

I do this problematic thing because if the outcome's not good, then the input must be bad.

And so there's heaps of judgment going on.

So right, though, we've been conditioned to think that from, you know, the very first time you saw Snow White or Cinderella or the glass slipper fits, all your problems will be solved.

Yeah.

Why do you think so many of us don't like talking about money?