Neal Tricarico

opening my heart, connecting with humans in this other way, this spiritual way, so true is the opposite.

The antithesis of trauma is this most profound, indescribable joy and connection

that I never felt before this trauma.

But to do it, you have to make a decision that says there is some purpose in this.

And what that's created for me is not that I'm going to get over grief, that grief has some period, is that all of this is true.

I'm going to carry this inexplicable, unimaginable pain and trauma and have the capacity for the most unbelievable connection, love, and growth possible.

And a man, Dr. Richard Tedeschi, coined this phenomenon some 30 years ago.

I was so grateful to interview him about this.

But post-traumatic growth is a real thing.

I'm living it.

And it's a part of...

our mission because everything we're going to do to help these teams is going to have a huge impact and some teens and families will be lost and this opportunity to grow and contribute from such trauma exists within all of us and i want to help the world and especially men who have grown up in this space where you have to be strong you have to

appear in a certain way to let all that BS go and live in a most vulnerable, raw, and real way that others can connect with so they can experience the profundity of this loss.

I mean, like I said earlier, I would trade all of it in a heartbeat to have Anthony back.

But the level of depth in relationships, the connections that I'm having with people now, the extraordinary places it's taken my marriage to is unimaginable.

So too is the difficulty in the marriage.

But that's what I'm saying is there's this huge, wildly rich life.

But if we stay on this side of suffering,

it's a tragedy because I know with certainty when I see Anthony again, it's gonna feel like a moment hasn't passed.

So why would I waste the next 30 to 35 years that I may have wallowing in that suffering when I can have so much impact and when that moment comes be celebrating with him.