Nick Bare

What can I do to support you?

Like truly having those conversations because it feels like we are

with them in their presence.

So we're, we're giving them what they need.

And the people who aren't closest to us that aren't in our, our inner circle, they're in our outer circle, our time and energy might be directed and prioritized to them because we automatically think that our inner circle is good.

Go check.

said good morning, saw them, I'm around them, I'm in a meeting with them, I had breakfast with them, so on and so forth.

But the reality is that our inner circle, the people who are closest to us, who are the people that you could call at 3 a.m.

and say, I need your help.

And they get out of bed, throw their shoes on, hop in the car and drive over to your house right away.

That's your inner circle.

Our inner circle often needs us more than we think and our outer circle often needs us less than we think or believe.

Second leadership lesson is that there's no upside at all to burning a bridge other than a very short-lived emotional victory.

I was just talking to

the BPN team about this in our all hands and why you should never fight hatred with hatred, but we should fight hatred with love and compassion and care.

I myself have burned bridges in the past.

In most cases, because I was prideful and my ego was driving my emotions and it was a very short-lived emotional victory.

Somebody hurt me or told me something that I didn't want to hear, even though it's true.

And I responded in a way that burned a bridge.

And for me personally,