Nick Viall

I think we all see ourselves in them a little bit so we can connect with things that they do or we can feel really let down by the decisions that they make sometimes.

So there's also like this parasocial relationship to it that really gets us glued to them.

Yeah, let's get into the definition.

But I also want to say that Dakota and Taylor...

Their relationship is so complicated and nuanced and layered that these definitions don't cleanly fit into their situation.

And they both kind of like have a role that they're playing here.

So DARVO stands for Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender.

So it's like, no, I didn't do it.

You did it.

Actually, I'm the victim.

It fits more cleanly, like, Darvo fits more cleanly in something like Alex and Ashley from Love is Blind, where, like, Ashley is saying, like, hey, your timeline, Alex, is really weird.

What's going on there?

And Alex is like, whoa, whoa, I don't know what you're talking about.

Like, I have a normal life, and you're being really weird asking me all these questions.

And actually, do you want me to, like, show you the receipts?

I feel attacked.

Like, it's just, like, Ashley is just like, what's going on here?

Yeah.

And Alex is being all Darvo about it.

The problem with Dakota and Taylor, they have their own versions of it.