Nicole McNichols

Part of that conversation can be, what do we want our sex life to look like?

Because I think that that's a commitment that absolutely is important and that people are entitled to.

And by entitled, again, I don't mean that anybody should ever be forced to have sex with somebody else.

I just mean that there should be a commitment to this idea that if sex isn't happening in the relationship or isn't happening in a way that's satisfying to both partners,

There needs to be a commitment to having a conversation about how to work your way through that.

Yeah.

So I think that it gets better with age is the short answer to that.

If you are in a position where you know your body, you know how your turn-ons work, you kind of have more confidence.

There's sort of this idea in a relationship that, oh, over 20, 30 years, you're just going to naturally lose attraction for your partner.

And that doesn't really have to be true.

In fact, the more you trust somebody, the more they kind of understand your body, the more relaxed you feel expressing what your fantasies and desires are to that person, the

Like, the better sex can be, right?

I mean, again, we see in the movies, we see in porn that the hottest sex only happens when you're with a new partner and it's someone you barely know.

But the reality, especially I'd say for women, is that sex is hotter when you're with someone where you can be honest about what really is going to do it for you.

So I think that there's, you know, and it kind of goes along with this myth that the secret to desire in long-term relationships is mystery, right?

And I just, I really wish we could get rid of that myth because the secret to relation, you know, if you're, if you're, you know what I mean?

If we were to look at like, well, is any aspect of that true?

I suppose passion thrives on both individuals being committed to their own self growth.

And so

I do believe that you need to keep changing and growing throughout your lives, whether it's through growing through career or through other interests or through other ideas that you're interested in in life.