Niko Emanuilidis

When people jump into – we're talking all day long, phone calls, phone calls. You can't keep the engine running at 90% all the time. It's going to go down. And once it starts to go down, that's when you're going to get anxious and you're going to start spiraling. And then you start wondering, what is he doing? Does he like me anymore? And then maybe he pulls back even more. Oh, my God. Oh, my God.

When people jump into – we're talking all day long, phone calls, phone calls. You can't keep the engine running at 90% all the time. It's going to go down. And once it starts to go down, that's when you're going to get anxious and you're going to start spiraling. And then you start wondering, what is he doing? Does he like me anymore? And then maybe he pulls back even more. Oh, my God. Oh, my God.

When people jump into – we're talking all day long, phone calls, phone calls. You can't keep the engine running at 90% all the time. It's going to go down. And once it starts to go down, that's when you're going to get anxious and you're going to start spiraling. And then you start wondering, what is he doing? Does he like me anymore? And then maybe he pulls back even more. Oh, my God. Oh, my God.

Then he comes back. Oh, yeah, he loves me again. And it just creates this nightmare spiraling scenario when really if you just kind of kept him his arms distance because this is a stranger, you don't know this person yet. Keep him at arms distance and slowly over time because you can't expedite love. Love takes time. So until enough time has gone by, you wouldn't know the answer to that anyway.

Then he comes back. Oh, yeah, he loves me again. And it just creates this nightmare spiraling scenario when really if you just kind of kept him his arms distance because this is a stranger, you don't know this person yet. Keep him at arms distance and slowly over time because you can't expedite love. Love takes time. So until enough time has gone by, you wouldn't know the answer to that anyway.

Then he comes back. Oh, yeah, he loves me again. And it just creates this nightmare spiraling scenario when really if you just kind of kept him his arms distance because this is a stranger, you don't know this person yet. Keep him at arms distance and slowly over time because you can't expedite love. Love takes time. So until enough time has gone by, you wouldn't know the answer to that anyway.

Seeing him every other day and talking all day long can't make that process happen faster. It takes time for that to happen. And a man who's after quick and casual doesn't want to put in that time. Men who are seriously dating are willing to put in that time because the most valuable thing we have is time.

Seeing him every other day and talking all day long can't make that process happen faster. It takes time for that to happen. And a man who's after quick and casual doesn't want to put in that time. Men who are seriously dating are willing to put in that time because the most valuable thing we have is time.

Seeing him every other day and talking all day long can't make that process happen faster. It takes time for that to happen. And a man who's after quick and casual doesn't want to put in that time. Men who are seriously dating are willing to put in that time because the most valuable thing we have is time.

So a guy who's after casual wants to maximize everything he can get out of you out of the shortest period of time possible. And the guy who's meant for you, who wants to be with you, won't mind going slower because he sees the big picture. He sees your value. Right when he met you, this is a girlfriend material. Like, I want to push this towards there.

So a guy who's after casual wants to maximize everything he can get out of you out of the shortest period of time possible. And the guy who's meant for you, who wants to be with you, won't mind going slower because he sees the big picture. He sees your value. Right when he met you, this is a girlfriend material. Like, I want to push this towards there.

So a guy who's after casual wants to maximize everything he can get out of you out of the shortest period of time possible. And the guy who's meant for you, who wants to be with you, won't mind going slower because he sees the big picture. He sees your value. Right when he met you, this is a girlfriend material. Like, I want to push this towards there.

And he will be willing to put in that work to get there. So I'd say that is a long answer. But that is my biggest thing. One of the biggest problems I see in dating is this. Oh, my God, we have a connection. I have to act on it. I have to see you every day. Talk all day long. Slow it down.

And he will be willing to put in that work to get there. So I'd say that is a long answer. But that is my biggest thing. One of the biggest problems I see in dating is this. Oh, my God, we have a connection. I have to act on it. I have to see you every day. Talk all day long. Slow it down.

And he will be willing to put in that work to get there. So I'd say that is a long answer. But that is my biggest thing. One of the biggest problems I see in dating is this. Oh, my God, we have a connection. I have to act on it. I have to see you every day. Talk all day long. Slow it down.

Slow it down, because honestly, it's more attractive if you're a little bit harder to get, a little bit aloof, a little bit mysterious. You're not super, super available. It's more attractive anyway. And you learn if you like somebody, like I said, through that space apart. Do you miss the person? All right, so that's great. That's a good sign.

Slow it down, because honestly, it's more attractive if you're a little bit harder to get, a little bit aloof, a little bit mysterious. You're not super, super available. It's more attractive anyway. And you learn if you like somebody, like I said, through that space apart. Do you miss the person? All right, so that's great. That's a good sign.

Slow it down, because honestly, it's more attractive if you're a little bit harder to get, a little bit aloof, a little bit mysterious. You're not super, super available. It's more attractive anyway. And you learn if you like somebody, like I said, through that space apart. Do you miss the person? All right, so that's great. That's a good sign.

But if you're seeing them every other day, you don't know if you could even miss somebody. So slowing down that pace and controlling that anxious sort of looping thoughts and behaviors in yourself is probably one of the bigger problems that I see when people meet somebody who they're crazy about.

But if you're seeing them every other day, you don't know if you could even miss somebody. So slowing down that pace and controlling that anxious sort of looping thoughts and behaviors in yourself is probably one of the bigger problems that I see when people meet somebody who they're crazy about.