Nir Eyal

Pain.

I don't want to repair this relationship.

It feels icky.

It's hard.

When you realize the truth that pain and suffering are two separate things, that you can disconnect the two, that pain is just signal, just information.

It's all it is, just data.

Suffering is the interpretation of that data.

When you realize that, you free your full potential.

There are things that you couldn't imagine you are capable of doing that are in your power that you thought were impossible.

Now, just like Daniel's surgery, going under surgery with zero anesthetic, what sounds impossible becomes reality.

So there's a complete 180 reversal that's happened recently in the psychology community around a very important theory that relates to this.

we used to believe, it used to be gospel in the psychology community, this concept of what's called learned helplessness.

The researchers Seligman and Meyer.

Learned helplessness was accepted everywhere.

It was even in mainstream press.

We all agreed that we learn to be helpless, that we're kind of born hopeful and then we learn over time as we're beaten down by society that we learn to give up.

And a few years ago, Seligman and Meyer, the people who coined learned helplessness,

realized that they had gotten it not only wrong, but 180 degrees backwards.

The exact opposite of what they thought when they looked at the data.

That in fact, we do not learn helplessness.