Nir Eyal

Yeah.

This is causing suffering.

And so in your head, look at what's happened here.

Your brain so wants to fight this belief that you might be hurting people and causing suffering that you've created a new limiting belief that it's no big deal.

When really what you just told me is you're only on time when it matters.

So when you're not on time, it's because their interests don't matter.

Just sit with that for a second.

Of course you do.

Yeah.

Absolutely you do.

And what is the whole point of looking at limiting beliefs?

And the reason you say it's not nice is because your brain now has created a new belief so that you can keep thinking you're nice and your behavior is okay even when you know you're not behaving in a way that's nice.

Because if you are telling in your life, hey, it's kind of hurting me that you don't think I'm important.

They see this.

They know that you're on time for a 7,000-person event.

And so your brain has manufactured a belief that what's the big deal?

It's a casual event.

I don't want to be stressed.

So you be stressed.

So you miss me.