Nir Eyal

So here's what I did.

I started envisioning when I go to that party and someone offers me the piece of chocolate cake that I don't want to eat, because I have this goal in mind,

And that feels uncomfortable.

One, I want the chocolate cake.

I desire it.

I crave it.

And I don't want to tell someone, I don't want to be rude and say, no, thanks.

I don't want the chocolate cake.

How, what will I do?

What will I say when that obstacle happens, which it inevitably will.

And so that's the right way to do these visioning exercises is to prepare for the pain.

Yeah.

What tools will you use?

So I'll give you an example in my own life.

Um,

When I started writing, I also started my speaking career.

And one thing you don't want as a professional public speaker is stage fright.

And I used to get terrible stage fright, that every time I was about to go on stage, I'd get the heart palpitations, I'd get the sweaty armpits, I'd get the cotton mouth, and I would interpret those physiological symptoms, that information, as suffering.

And I would start this rumination loop of, you know, if I get on stage and I mess up, it's going to be terrible.

People are going to make fun of me.