Nir Eyal

The hammer is the one and only true tool because one time I worked on a job and I used a hammer and it was really good, so I'm only going to use hammers from now on.

No.

So you're using a belief that you've always used.

time to pick up a different tool.

Well, okay, I'll give you a very practical tool.

There's a lot.

We could do a whole episode about, I think, the secrets to a good marriage.

A lot of it has to do with beliefs.

A lot of it has to do with acknowledging that you don't see reality clearly, right?

If you're only seeing that 50 bits of information when we're processing 11 million bits, you don't even see your own reality clearly.

You're going to tell me you think you're going to try and get in someone's head and tell them what they meant when they said that?

Impossible.

Impossible.

You cannot...

compute someone else's intentions.

As much as you try, you don't know.

You can't even see your own reality clearly.

How can you see theirs?

I'll give you a very practical tool that we use all the time that I think has been awesome.

is we try and assess how important something is to one of us.