Olga Khazan

You know, do you make an effort to like read self-help books? It's kind of like the stuff that you do and absorb into yourself. that creates that other part of personality. So that's the kind of element that I'm talking about is that like, yeah, if you have two parents who are totally bookish and hate talking to people, you're going to naturally be kind of like, I feel really introverted.

You know, do you make an effort to like read self-help books? It's kind of like the stuff that you do and absorb into yourself. that creates that other part of personality. So that's the kind of element that I'm talking about is that like, yeah, if you have two parents who are totally bookish and hate talking to people, you're going to naturally be kind of like, I feel really introverted.

You know, do you make an effort to like read self-help books? It's kind of like the stuff that you do and absorb into yourself. that creates that other part of personality. So that's the kind of element that I'm talking about is that like, yeah, if you have two parents who are totally bookish and hate talking to people, you're going to naturally be kind of like, I feel really introverted.

But if you, you know, go into a job in sales and you talk to people, you know, all day and everyone around you is extroverted and you get like high fives and promotions for being extroverted like you're gonna be a little bit more extroverted than you naturally would be if that makes sense so it's kind of like at some point reinforcement does kind of work like

But if you, you know, go into a job in sales and you talk to people, you know, all day and everyone around you is extroverted and you get like high fives and promotions for being extroverted like you're gonna be a little bit more extroverted than you naturally would be if that makes sense so it's kind of like at some point reinforcement does kind of work like

But if you, you know, go into a job in sales and you talk to people, you know, all day and everyone around you is extroverted and you get like high fives and promotions for being extroverted like you're gonna be a little bit more extroverted than you naturally would be if that makes sense so it's kind of like at some point reinforcement does kind of work like

Yeah. So, um, that's like the whole book. So, um, let me just break it down into, let's talk about extraversion first. Cause I think that is like the easiest to wrap your head around and also has had the clearest results. Um, so, um, extraversion, basically the secret to increasing extraversion is to socialize with people. Some of the other traits are more existential and more like mindset

Yeah. So, um, that's like the whole book. So, um, let me just break it down into, let's talk about extraversion first. Cause I think that is like the easiest to wrap your head around and also has had the clearest results. Um, so, um, extraversion, basically the secret to increasing extraversion is to socialize with people. Some of the other traits are more existential and more like mindset

Yeah. So, um, that's like the whole book. So, um, let me just break it down into, let's talk about extraversion first. Cause I think that is like the easiest to wrap your head around and also has had the clearest results. Um, so, um, extraversion, basically the secret to increasing extraversion is to socialize with people. Some of the other traits are more existential and more like mindset

oriented and kind of like how you think about things um extraversion is like very clear-cut go talk to people like go do activities um so I signed up for a bunch of stuff I signed up for improv um sailing club uh a bunch of meetup groups um so which is like groups of strangers meeting up literally I like threw a party at my house. I just went out all the time.

oriented and kind of like how you think about things um extraversion is like very clear-cut go talk to people like go do activities um so I signed up for a bunch of stuff I signed up for improv um sailing club uh a bunch of meetup groups um so which is like groups of strangers meeting up literally I like threw a party at my house. I just went out all the time.

oriented and kind of like how you think about things um extraversion is like very clear-cut go talk to people like go do activities um so I signed up for a bunch of stuff I signed up for improv um sailing club uh a bunch of meetup groups um so which is like groups of strangers meeting up literally I like threw a party at my house. I just went out all the time.

I went from basically going out maybe once a week to going out like pretty much every night or like not and not like going out drinking, like although there was a lot of drinking. I can imagine. Like just being around people. And I found that like almost every time before I went, I dreaded it. I did not want to go. I was like, I hate improv. I don't even know why I'm doing this. This is stupid.

I went from basically going out maybe once a week to going out like pretty much every night or like not and not like going out drinking, like although there was a lot of drinking. I can imagine. Like just being around people. And I found that like almost every time before I went, I dreaded it. I did not want to go. I was like, I hate improv. I don't even know why I'm doing this. This is stupid.

I went from basically going out maybe once a week to going out like pretty much every night or like not and not like going out drinking, like although there was a lot of drinking. I can imagine. Like just being around people. And I found that like almost every time before I went, I dreaded it. I did not want to go. I was like, I hate improv. I don't even know why I'm doing this. This is stupid.

Like, I don't want to go. And then almost every time after I would do it, I felt better. I was like, that was super fun. Or like, that person in the sailing, my sailboat today was really interesting. Or like, that was cool. Or like, hey, like I... got to get whatever, a burger on the way back home.

Like, I don't want to go. And then almost every time after I would do it, I felt better. I was like, that was super fun. Or like, that person in the sailing, my sailboat today was really interesting. Or like, that was cool. Or like, hey, like I... got to get whatever, a burger on the way back home.

Like, I don't want to go. And then almost every time after I would do it, I felt better. I was like, that was super fun. Or like, that person in the sailing, my sailboat today was really interesting. Or like, that was cool. Or like, hey, like I... got to get whatever, a burger on the way back home.

Like there was something that came out of it usually that I was like, huh, that was like a nice break from the day. That was like a nice way to like liven up the day a little bit. And I think that's kind of like the, when I talk about increasing extroversion or like changing your introversion, you can remain an introvert, but just do like 20% more stuff, like connect with people 20% more.

Like there was something that came out of it usually that I was like, huh, that was like a nice break from the day. That was like a nice way to like liven up the day a little bit. And I think that's kind of like the, when I talk about increasing extroversion or like changing your introversion, you can remain an introvert, but just do like 20% more stuff, like connect with people 20% more.