Olga Khazan

stressful time when you first have a baby. Like it just is. There's no getting around it. You don't know what you're doing and they're very tiny and they cannot speak to you. And so you're just like, what do you want? So I kind of made a point of reaching out to other moms and like I'm in a mom's group that's been really supportive. I also just like

Really, really try to even in day to day life, if I meet another mom with kids the same age, I really try to like reach out and at least see if she's open to the possibility of friendship. And sometimes that means that I and this is not something I would have done previously. I actually do a lot of reaching out. repeatedly.

Really, really try to even in day to day life, if I meet another mom with kids the same age, I really try to like reach out and at least see if she's open to the possibility of friendship. And sometimes that means that I and this is not something I would have done previously. I actually do a lot of reaching out. repeatedly.

Really, really try to even in day to day life, if I meet another mom with kids the same age, I really try to like reach out and at least see if she's open to the possibility of friendship. And sometimes that means that I and this is not something I would have done previously. I actually do a lot of reaching out. repeatedly.

So like if someone let's say I reach out to someone and they're like, yeah, let's have coffee and we have coffee and we both have a good time. I and then some time elapses and no one follows up. I might reach out again, even though it was me the last time too. And then I might do that like a third time. Like there are some relationships where I'm just always the person who

So like if someone let's say I reach out to someone and they're like, yeah, let's have coffee and we have coffee and we both have a good time. I and then some time elapses and no one follows up. I might reach out again, even though it was me the last time too. And then I might do that like a third time. Like there are some relationships where I'm just always the person who

So like if someone let's say I reach out to someone and they're like, yeah, let's have coffee and we have coffee and we both have a good time. I and then some time elapses and no one follows up. I might reach out again, even though it was me the last time too. And then I might do that like a third time. Like there are some relationships where I'm just always the person who

organizes things and that used to really bother me like I was like that person doesn't want to be friends like I'm going to move on because they're not putting in equal effort into organizing things and like I don't I don't want that but I kind of just realized through this that like everyone has stuff going on and like People just don't think about things the same way.

organizes things and that used to really bother me like I was like that person doesn't want to be friends like I'm going to move on because they're not putting in equal effort into organizing things and like I don't I don't want that but I kind of just realized through this that like everyone has stuff going on and like People just don't think about things the same way.

organizes things and that used to really bother me like I was like that person doesn't want to be friends like I'm going to move on because they're not putting in equal effort into organizing things and like I don't I don't want that but I kind of just realized through this that like everyone has stuff going on and like People just don't think about things the same way.

They are maybe swamped in other ways. They're maybe not as comfortable with reaching out. I don't know. It just made me a lot less sensitive, I guess, about these rules of social interaction that I had previously thought were like iron like laws, you know? So that's been one thing that I've noticed.

They are maybe swamped in other ways. They're maybe not as comfortable with reaching out. I don't know. It just made me a lot less sensitive, I guess, about these rules of social interaction that I had previously thought were like iron like laws, you know? So that's been one thing that I've noticed.

They are maybe swamped in other ways. They're maybe not as comfortable with reaching out. I don't know. It just made me a lot less sensitive, I guess, about these rules of social interaction that I had previously thought were like iron like laws, you know? So that's been one thing that I've noticed.

Like yesterday we went on a play date to this woman who I like barely knew just because I was like, I'm really bored. And if I have to like sing Baby Beluga one more time, I'm going to lose my mind. So I was like, let's go over to Yuchen's house. And yeah, that's what we did. And it was great, you know? So I don't know.

Like yesterday we went on a play date to this woman who I like barely knew just because I was like, I'm really bored. And if I have to like sing Baby Beluga one more time, I'm going to lose my mind. So I was like, let's go over to Yuchen's house. And yeah, that's what we did. And it was great, you know? So I don't know.

Like yesterday we went on a play date to this woman who I like barely knew just because I was like, I'm really bored. And if I have to like sing Baby Beluga one more time, I'm going to lose my mind. So I was like, let's go over to Yuchen's house. And yeah, that's what we did. And it was great, you know? So I don't know.

I know. I'm not very competent or capable as it is. But I will say that I think that doing this experiment helped me decide to have a baby.

I know. I'm not very competent or capable as it is. But I will say that I think that doing this experiment helped me decide to have a baby.

I know. I'm not very competent or capable as it is. But I will say that I think that doing this experiment helped me decide to have a baby.

Like it helped me get more comfortable with the idea of having a baby. Yeah.