Owen

All right.

Very good.

Nice tip.

I can feel reality being tweaked for my benefit already.

Are you recommending the husband apology?

I think Scott talked about the husband apology.

So there are situations in a relationship, like a marriage, where both people think they're right and they think the other one's wrong.

And Alison Armstrong kind of recommends this as well.

as a way to help men and women get along better is that the way she explains it is when a woman in a relationship feels like she's been wronged by the man, she goes into this, I forget if it's sympathetic or parasympathetic, her nervous system's going nuts and she can't even breathe and she's just out of her normal mode and she can't get back there until she gets an apology.

But there are many situations where the man doesn't think he did anything wrong.

And so what do you do?

And she recommends this husband apology, which is basically just the guy says he's sorry and gives the apology, even though he doesn't think he's wrong.

I didn't quite finish.

I want to explain.

She also says the very important thing for a woman in that situation is to accept that apology and not go after him.

If the woman...

accepts the apology and recognizes that it's a gift.

It's a gift to get that apology because it allows her to go back into her normal mode of feeling, that that will work out well.

But if she doubles down, if she goes after him, if she starts getting even more angry or in any way

punishes him for doing that, she'll never get that husband apology again.