Patric Gagne

I think the hardest part isn't me. It's my husband, probably.

I think the hardest part isn't me. It's my husband, probably.

I think the hardest part isn't me. It's my husband, probably.

I just, he carries the greatest burden in that I don't take things personally. My husband is a hot-blooded Italian. he is very affectionate. It took him a long time to understand that I am not as affectionate as he is, but it's not personal. It's not, you're doing something wrong, therefore I'm not as affectionate. I'm just not, I don't really express affection love that way naturally.

I just, he carries the greatest burden in that I don't take things personally. My husband is a hot-blooded Italian. he is very affectionate. It took him a long time to understand that I am not as affectionate as he is, but it's not personal. It's not, you're doing something wrong, therefore I'm not as affectionate. I'm just not, I don't really express affection love that way naturally.

I just, he carries the greatest burden in that I don't take things personally. My husband is a hot-blooded Italian. he is very affectionate. It took him a long time to understand that I am not as affectionate as he is, but it's not personal. It's not, you're doing something wrong, therefore I'm not as affectionate. I'm just not, I don't really express affection love that way naturally.

Now he is my husband. He's my partner. I understand that there are different ways and I want him to feel love in the way that he wants to feel love. So yes, I have grown to become more affectionate, but I think for him, it's that constant reminder of don't take it personally. Don't take it personally because he also I think he's someone who likes to regulate his moods based on mine.

Now he is my husband. He's my partner. I understand that there are different ways and I want him to feel love in the way that he wants to feel love. So yes, I have grown to become more affectionate, but I think for him, it's that constant reminder of don't take it personally. Don't take it personally because he also I think he's someone who likes to regulate his moods based on mine.

Now he is my husband. He's my partner. I understand that there are different ways and I want him to feel love in the way that he wants to feel love. So yes, I have grown to become more affectionate, but I think for him, it's that constant reminder of don't take it personally. Don't take it personally because he also I think he's someone who likes to regulate his moods based on mine.

So he needs that constant validation vis-a-vis I'm happy, or I feel this way, I feel that way. And we have to have a lot of conversations where I have to remind him, no, how do you feel? Anchoring with you, and then we can talk about what's going on with me. But I think that

So he needs that constant validation vis-a-vis I'm happy, or I feel this way, I feel that way. And we have to have a lot of conversations where I have to remind him, no, how do you feel? Anchoring with you, and then we can talk about what's going on with me. But I think that

So he needs that constant validation vis-a-vis I'm happy, or I feel this way, I feel that way. And we have to have a lot of conversations where I have to remind him, no, how do you feel? Anchoring with you, and then we can talk about what's going on with me. But I think that

having been raised in an Italian Catholic childhood where it was all the emotions were big and his emotions were minimized for different reasons than mine were, you know, because all of the adults were loud and screaming and he learned how to take his own temperature by taking the temperature of those around him. So to marry someone like me, that's a slippery slope.

having been raised in an Italian Catholic childhood where it was all the emotions were big and his emotions were minimized for different reasons than mine were, you know, because all of the adults were loud and screaming and he learned how to take his own temperature by taking the temperature of those around him. So to marry someone like me, that's a slippery slope.

having been raised in an Italian Catholic childhood where it was all the emotions were big and his emotions were minimized for different reasons than mine were, you know, because all of the adults were loud and screaming and he learned how to take his own temperature by taking the temperature of those around him. So to marry someone like me, that's a slippery slope.

Or dysregulate. Yes. And again, you're talking probably to the wrong person because this is very much how I feel. And I had this conversation, I think it's in the book, where we were talking about acts of kindness. And my husband was saying, you know, I do these things for you. And I was saying, no, you do these things for you. You do these things because you want my joyous reaction.

Or dysregulate. Yes. And again, you're talking probably to the wrong person because this is very much how I feel. And I had this conversation, I think it's in the book, where we were talking about acts of kindness. And my husband was saying, you know, I do these things for you. And I was saying, no, you do these things for you. You do these things because you want my joyous reaction.

Or dysregulate. Yes. And again, you're talking probably to the wrong person because this is very much how I feel. And I had this conversation, I think it's in the book, where we were talking about acts of kindness. And my husband was saying, you know, I do these things for you. And I was saying, no, you do these things for you. You do these things because you want my joyous reaction.

When I do something, I don't tell anybody about it. And to your point, these empaths, and again, there's nothing wrong with being empathic, but yes, that word has become Almost revolting because to me, it's like, okay, oh, you're an empath, huh? Well, why didn't I see you at that huge traumatic event that happened in our neighborhood? I don't remember seeing you there.

When I do something, I don't tell anybody about it. And to your point, these empaths, and again, there's nothing wrong with being empathic, but yes, that word has become Almost revolting because to me, it's like, okay, oh, you're an empath, huh? Well, why didn't I see you at that huge traumatic event that happened in our neighborhood? I don't remember seeing you there.