Paul Conti

Like we're getting closer to death, we're accumulating insults, right?

Everything hurts a little bit more and we have less energy and we accumulate losses and traumas.

Why would anyone...

be be healthier across time if you're happier across time and and what we see is it's linked to the good to the things that we're talking about right it's linked to say let's say vulnerability versus pride like there's a good balance there right there's a lot of humility there's a lot of self-esteem the person is is spending a lot of time standing back from the tapestry and looking at it right and and what can come into people is in sort of a sense of equanimity like i sort of

understand.

I'm being the best person I can be.

And that's not always even great.

And there are things that I don't feel great about even while I'm trying to do that.

But look, I'm being who I'm choosing to be.

And that doesn't have to be in some big way.

I'm not saying that means any one specific thing.

That can mean the person who's taking care of their cat and tending their garden.

That's enough.

We have to have love, the ability to put good things out in the world and to put our

Our ability to work and to make things different out into the world and make things better.

And if we're doing that, we get happier across time because we come to a sense of peace with ourselves.

I'm not supposed to be everything.

I'm not supposed to do everything.

I'm not supposed to fix everything.

I'm also not supposed to suffer all the time for the things I haven't gotten right.