Paul Eastwick

Those are the things that I would be excited about and would look to to build around it to try to repeat.

Right.

I mean, that's part of the thing, too.

I mean, sometimes, you know, you click with somebody one moment and then the next time you meet them, you don't to the same extent.

This totally happens.

But but I look for, yeah, the green flags, the moments of connection and try to repeat those.

Now, hobby groups, social clubs, it does sound old fashioned.

Yeah, I think they're better for a few reasons.

One is that when we know we're going to be seeing people on repeated occasions, we're less evaluative, like I'm interviewing you, and more like, hey, I want this interaction to go smoothly.

I mean, it's just like an instinct people have.

If I know that we're going to be at least a little bit interdependent, we're going to be in this improv class together, we might get paired up for another exercise in the future, I kind of want this to go well.

I think that puts people in a good headspace to start.

And then from there, I think what's really amazing about what people tend to do is that we can find things to like in people even when others don't see it.

That is, it's not that we all have this true permanent value about how desirable we are.

We come off differently to different people.

And this becomes more and more true over time.

I think this reflects something about our evolved condition.

I think it reflects something about like, hey, you know, a few million years ago, you had to pair up with somebody and you couldn't be holding out for the quote unquote best.

You had to find somebody and make it work with them.

I think we're pretty good at doing that.