Paul Eastwick

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Sonia and Simon · Why Your “Type” Is Ruining Your Love Life | Paul Eastwick · 24 May 2026 podcast

of their social needs on their partner to the same extent and so if things start to go wrong in the relationship if things seem to be declining women are a little again it's not a huge effect but women are a little bit more likely to be the ones to break it off and probably that's because they know that they've got at least a little bit of a softer place to land

relative to men.

That's not to say that breakups are going to be fun.

And a lot of times people put off the decision for so long that by the time they get out, they finally feel like they're free and they're elated.

But most breakups are really challenging for both people.

But women at least have a social network that they can fall back on.

yeah so um that really speaks to this distinction between like what we think we want when we're imagining partners in the abstract and then what do we actually want once we meet people face to face um the ambition example earlier is i think a good illustration of this point but we see this with a whole bunch of things now if you were to take like

all of the possible preferences you might assess about me and use that to try to match me with a potential romantic partner, you're probably not really gonna get all that far.

In fact, we've done machine learning studies where you take everything, not just my preferences, but everything you might possibly wanna know about me,

all my values and all my beliefs and my personality and use that to try to figure out who am I gonna click with on a first date, we're not able to find any kind of matching ability at all.

So that tells me that compatibility is something that emerges organically through the process of interacting with somebody, through conversation, and honestly, like through getting a little lucky with what our topics of conversation are.

That it's through this kind of process that people find a connection.

It isn't like there in the literal information about who I am and who you are.

Yeah, this seems so complicated.

And I have very ambivalent thoughts about the whole thing because on the one hand,

I can imagine a universe where an AI powered chat bot works like a time limited therapist.

And that is somebody who's there to be.

I mean, therapists aren't supposed to like engage in that sort of sycophantic behavior.

that we're used to from the chatbots.

You know, oh, you're so wonderful.

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