Pete Wright
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Yeah. Then it's like super seductive, but destructive at the same time.
Yeah. Right.
Yeah, that's interesting. Well, because what you're doing is you're personalizing it, right? You're talking about your state and your behavior and not the act of chase or pursuit of someone else, which then suddenly seems creepy and uninvited. I think so.
I found a number of resources that were like looking at channeling lust. Lust could be a motivating force for positive change.
Maybe. I think it goes to... Oh, gardening. Oh, crafts. Arts and crafts. A hoedown. I... I feel like that may be what they're talking about. In this case, it was just like looking at a redirection of energy and passion around things, around like goals, objects, charity, whatever it is. What I don't understand is...
I mean, I understand trying to manufacture the feeling of the same level of energy and excitement that is behind lust. I understand the ideal. I don't understand the direct correlation because I just feel like, oh, I don't think I've ever heard anyone say I'm so horny for food bank work.
Yeah, I have heard of that.
But isn't that entire thing rooted in some way in shame?
I think the idea on the surface of finding that clarity, but isn't it like the converse is also true, that I should finish that book because I am so distracted by sex, I should be ashamed at not having the willpower to finish the book in absence of this massive distraction that I can't get myself out from under. Right.
Right. At some level, at some level, I feel like that's I feel like that's where that hits me. And that makes me it makes me a little bit nervous to to talk about because I know like I already already dropped maladaptive behavior. I know there are there are people who's who's. relationship with sexual ideation is maladaptive and they need help, right, to regain focus.
I don't feel like any of this is necessarily talking to those people. But I also think the line between normal sexual attraction and maladaptive behavior is big and fuzzy.
and and not clear and i think that's the that's the challenge with the whole conversation when you're talking about lust is how do you know i i feel like like what is the what what is the the red flag for being in uh uh for being attracted to someone and or being attracted to just looking at the appearance of someone and knowing that your lust is now maladaptive acting on it Yeah, I guess.
I mean, don't go to Rome. There are a lot of sexy statues. Maybe they'll get you all hot and bothered.
Yeah. Right. Right. That's exactly what a lustful person would say.
I came to a place where no light shone at all, bellowing like the sea racked by a tempest, when warring winds attack it from both sides. This infernal storm, eternal in its rage, sweeps and drives the spirits with its blast. It whirls them, lashing them with punishment. I learned that to this place of punishment, all those who sin in lust have been condemned.
Those who make reason slave to appetite.
Okay. Yeah. Yeah.
Is having it come up later a problem? No, luckily. Oh, good.