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Pete Wright

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All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

I had a really difficult time not relating it to Seinfeld. So Vipassana is about nothing. You're just doing nothing. You're just sitting and just looking around and doing nothing. But what's interesting about it is he started with a fascinating example that really works for me. So say you're laying in bed late one night. And I don't know why I laughed at that.

All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

I had a really difficult time not relating it to Seinfeld. So Vipassana is about nothing. You're just doing nothing. You're just sitting and just looking around and doing nothing. But what's interesting about it is he started with a fascinating example that really works for me. So say you're laying in bed late one night. And I don't know why I laughed at that.

All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

I was about to make some sort of a joke. It wasn't going to be funny. And so I derailed. I ran out of runway. Yeah. So you're laying in bed one night and you get an itch and it's at the bottom of your foot.

All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

I was about to make some sort of a joke. It wasn't going to be funny. And so I derailed. I ran out of runway. Yeah. So you're laying in bed one night and you get an itch and it's at the bottom of your foot.

All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

Now, you might naturally be drawn to lift your foot up and start scratching it or get up and walk around. It's the unscratchable itch. Maybe it's an itch below a callus. Those are impossible to resolve. But what if you stop and you say something more like, huh, that's an itch. I wonder why the nerve is acting up there. I'm curious about that.

All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

Now, you might naturally be drawn to lift your foot up and start scratching it or get up and walk around. It's the unscratchable itch. Maybe it's an itch below a callus. Those are impossible to resolve. But what if you stop and you say something more like, huh, that's an itch. I wonder why the nerve is acting up there. I'm curious about that.

All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

I'm thinking, actually, I'm observing my experience of having that itch. What does it make me want to do? Well, it likely would make me want to reach my foot up and scratch it, but what if I just see where the itch is going? What if I just wait? What if I do nothing and just observe? I'll be damned, Tom, the itch goes away. The itch runs its course.

All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

I'm thinking, actually, I'm observing my experience of having that itch. What does it make me want to do? Well, it likely would make me want to reach my foot up and scratch it, but what if I just see where the itch is going? What if I just wait? What if I do nothing and just observe? I'll be damned, Tom, the itch goes away. The itch runs its course.

All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

And I look at what you're describing, that sort of observational nature of introspection and curiosity is this sort of Vipassana approach to kindness and to patience. It is, I'm going to look at the world curiously, but through that curiosity, I'm going to attempt to understand it in a new way. And I think that's really fascinating.

All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

And I look at what you're describing, that sort of observational nature of introspection and curiosity is this sort of Vipassana approach to kindness and to patience. It is, I'm going to look at the world curiously, but through that curiosity, I'm going to attempt to understand it in a new way. And I think that's really fascinating.

All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

I think that's really... I'm probably... I'm also now making a riddle, I think. But I think it's fascinating.

All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

I think that's really... I'm probably... I'm also now making a riddle, I think. But I think it's fascinating.

All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

Yeah. It's fine. Yeah. Yeah. I start thinking like this entire sort of approach is something that gets me thinking about, okay, let's just – what if we are curious about that situation? My response normally might be, ugh, I'm mad, like you said. I'm just. But what I could be saying is, wow. I wonder what's going on in that car that caused them not to pay attention. I hope they're okay.

All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

Yeah. It's fine. Yeah. Yeah. I start thinking like this entire sort of approach is something that gets me thinking about, okay, let's just – what if we are curious about that situation? My response normally might be, ugh, I'm mad, like you said. I'm just. But what I could be saying is, wow. I wonder what's going on in that car that caused them not to pay attention. I hope they're okay.

All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

And that's the kind and patient approach that says, I'm sacrificing my current experience and I'm selflessly now trying to be aware of the world around me in a way that's kind and patient and just letting it go.

All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

And that's the kind and patient approach that says, I'm sacrificing my current experience and I'm selflessly now trying to be aware of the world around me in a way that's kind and patient and just letting it go.

All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

Yeah, you're... You're the ass who doesn't recognize that they've just been poisoned by a Russian spy. Yeah, exactly. I just read that in a Jean Le Carre book, and I'm sure that's happening on the streets of Burbank, right? Wherever you happen to be driving, Hollywood mogul you. So anyhow, I think that's really interesting. Now, this is the cultural thing that got me thinking.

All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

Yeah, you're... You're the ass who doesn't recognize that they've just been poisoned by a Russian spy. Yeah, exactly. I just read that in a Jean Le Carre book, and I'm sure that's happening on the streets of Burbank, right? Wherever you happen to be driving, Hollywood mogul you. So anyhow, I think that's really interesting. Now, this is the cultural thing that got me thinking.

All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

Look at the civil rights movement, right? I don't want to talk about any specific sides other than I'm pro-civil rights. Yeah, I think we can be on the record. Civil rights is great. That's not the point. The point is, look at the riots.

All The Feelings • Adulting
Patience & Kindness: The Two Heavenly Virtues of Not Being a Big Dumb Jerk

Look at the civil rights movement, right? I don't want to talk about any specific sides other than I'm pro-civil rights. Yeah, I think we can be on the record. Civil rights is great. That's not the point. The point is, look at the riots.