Pete

We were just on a list. You know, we said that we were willing to adopt or we wanted to adopt. We said that we wanted to adopt without regard for race. By the way, anybody who says race is not a thing in this country should experience an adoption process where there are literally different lists. If you say that you want a white kid only versus if you say that doesn't matter.

Like literally a different list. What is that? What do you mean by that? The list for white kid only is longer. And not only that, there was actually a discount or you didn't have to pay a deposit on the fee.

Like literally a different list. What is that? What do you mean by that? The list for white kid only is longer. And not only that, there was actually a discount or you didn't have to pay a deposit on the fee.

Like literally a different list. What is that? What do you mean by that? The list for white kid only is longer. And not only that, there was actually a discount or you didn't have to pay a deposit on the fee.

I couldn't believe it. So we didn't know anything about the racial identity of the kids until they started to look. Mixed race, which they are. And contending with the hair thing is already a thing. And lots of advice, especially from black parents who see stuff on Instagram or they're like, let me tell you how to do it.

I couldn't believe it. So we didn't know anything about the racial identity of the kids until they started to look. Mixed race, which they are. And contending with the hair thing is already a thing. And lots of advice, especially from black parents who see stuff on Instagram or they're like, let me tell you how to do it.

I couldn't believe it. So we didn't know anything about the racial identity of the kids until they started to look. Mixed race, which they are. And contending with the hair thing is already a thing. And lots of advice, especially from black parents who see stuff on Instagram or they're like, let me tell you how to do it.

And to begin with, the idea of being a girl dad and dealing with girl hair was pretty intimidating. My hair is very...

And to begin with, the idea of being a girl dad and dealing with girl hair was pretty intimidating. My hair is very...

And to begin with, the idea of being a girl dad and dealing with girl hair was pretty intimidating. My hair is very...

simple and straightforward obviously i'm a low maintenance kind of guy like starting to learn about like all the different products that are involved him too like we have like a whole sequence with with with you know a conditioner and then essential oils all this stuff um and you're always asking yourself like how can i be you're already constantly asking yourself how can i be a good dad and now it's like how can i be a good dad for kids who have a different racial identity than i do and uh how can i help them navigate that and

simple and straightforward obviously i'm a low maintenance kind of guy like starting to learn about like all the different products that are involved him too like we have like a whole sequence with with with you know a conditioner and then essential oils all this stuff um and you're always asking yourself like how can i be you're already constantly asking yourself how can i be a good dad and now it's like how can i be a good dad for kids who have a different racial identity than i do and uh how can i help them navigate that and

simple and straightforward obviously i'm a low maintenance kind of guy like starting to learn about like all the different products that are involved him too like we have like a whole sequence with with with you know a conditioner and then essential oils all this stuff um and you're always asking yourself like how can i be you're already constantly asking yourself how can i be a good dad and now it's like how can i be a good dad for kids who have a different racial identity than i do and uh how can i help them navigate that and

And what are the circumstances where there's nothing I can do to help navigate that? And I need to connect them up to mentors and people in their lives because the reality is like, this is not a colorblind society and like their, their lives will be affected in some way by their racial, all of ours are.

And what are the circumstances where there's nothing I can do to help navigate that? And I need to connect them up to mentors and people in their lives because the reality is like, this is not a colorblind society and like their, their lives will be affected in some way by their racial, all of ours are.

And what are the circumstances where there's nothing I can do to help navigate that? And I need to connect them up to mentors and people in their lives because the reality is like, this is not a colorblind society and like their, their lives will be affected in some way by their racial, all of ours are.

But one thing about being white is you don't have to think about the fact that when you're white, your racial identity is not something that you're reminded of all the time in a way that they will be. And we live in a not super diverse, although it's getting more diverse part of Michigan.

But one thing about being white is you don't have to think about the fact that when you're white, your racial identity is not something that you're reminded of all the time in a way that they will be. And we live in a not super diverse, although it's getting more diverse part of Michigan.

But one thing about being white is you don't have to think about the fact that when you're white, your racial identity is not something that you're reminded of all the time in a way that they will be. And we live in a not super diverse, although it's getting more diverse part of Michigan.

But our hope is that they will, by the time they're old enough to even be wondering and thinking about these things, which I know is coming sooner than we think. that they know that they are loved and that they are safe and that they're, um, growing up into a world that has so much possibility for them. Um, and that, that we'll be there for them any way we can.