Raanan Hershberg

No. No. Maybe she might have been disturbed a little by the speed. Well, it's tough. I was in a rut a little. Sometimes you're in a rut with comedy, and then something crazy happens. It just starts coming. You know what I mean?

We get in that argument a lot. Which I get. I mean, she's not a comedian. I just want to be personal.

I want to bravely disclose all her personal... I want to bravely disclose all of it.

Yeah, I'm very brave for bringing this stuff up about you.

But yeah, no, but she's, yeah, she's amazing. And yeah, it's my first like serious relationship and I'm already in like, like serious and I'm already, I went from like,

Like, moving in with the person.

I know, I'm like 40.

Especially when I moved to New York. I got into the cellar, and at that point, it's really hard to date people because you get a lot of spots and you can't see anyone.

Yeah, exactly.

But I am working with my therapist about realizing that... You know, I always for years thought the person you're in a relationship with is somehow like an enemy of your artistic process, you know? Like they're there to stifle you. It's an unhealthy way of thinking and I've tried to work about it.

I think my mom, though she's great, was pretty overbearing, like a Jewish mother. And I think she was so always overbearing, always wanting to know what was going on, that I think my response was just go in my room and shut people out. And so I think I'm afraid. You know, she's a Jewish mother, so she just tells me everything to do at all times. Right.

So I think I've associated intimacy with someone. I came up with this. My therapist brought this up. I'm not smart enough to realize this. But I think I associate intimacy with someone trying to stifle me or smother me, you know? Yeah. As opposed to, like, something where you're trying to, you know, be in something...

And that's a bad relationship because she doesn't understand him. Or like she thinks like... My thing is my girlfriend doesn't think that way. And I sometimes find myself projecting that onto her.

Because I project like... She'll just be like, I'm not comfortable with you doing this joke. And I'm like, quit trying to silence me.

Of course. And like, yeah, I mean, you have to like, I don't know. I mean, to me, it's not about making it. If you love something, do it and do it if even if you're broke. I mean, to me, it's I don't believe in like. I don't think of things as having a safety plan. David Mamet, I think it was him who said that. Don't have a safety plan because you're falling back on it.

Don't have a net.

I think you just have to, if you love something. For me, I love comedy. I love making movies. I'm focused on that.

Oh, 100%. Right. That's what I'm saying. But the question is, are you one of those people, right?

Yeah, it's definitely good, especially if you have a kid. I feel like it's definitely good to already have a career of some – like I have a career. It's not like amazing, but it's a career. Yeah. And that helps. It's like I am making money. Yes. But it's really tough if you're like don't make money and then you get in a relationship, especially if you have a kid.

You're fucked because then you're also selfish now. You're selfish if you're taking spots when you should be getting. So that's tough.