Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz

Is it the place you eat?

Is it the

place to sleep, and the Gemara says they're not really arguing, it depends on the circumstance.

Whichever, essentially, long story short, whichever home is more permanent, comfortable, private, to you, is your real home.

So you're eating a meal at a simcha, where there are going to be 300 people, and you're staying in a private bedroom.

So you light in the bedroom.

So probably for Shabbos, the difference is that with Shabbos candles, you can light an incandescent bulb, and almost all post-Gamal, you can say a bracha on that.

That if it's a battery-powered incandescent bulb...

You could probably say a bracha on that for Shabbos candles.

And they even make them, dafka, to use for Shabbos candles.

For Hanukkah candles, not so posh, you could say a bracha on it.

Rav Shechter said that we should probably be choshesh for those post-Gimuhol that it needs to be mamish in there when it comes to Teneros Hanukkah.

As I mentioned, I was a guest at Rav Reisman's house this past Shabbos,

So I was a guest in his shul, but I stayed at his house.

So as soon as I walked in the door, he said, would you like to be Kona, the candles?

Because that's one of the things that you could do.

It's a mechanism, the way that Rav Salveichka understood it, it's a mechanism that Chazal instituted to make you a Ben Habayis, even though you're not.

So a mechanism that they instituted is that you could pay toward the candles.

So Reisman said, you know, when I buy the candles, I'm already mizaka whoever's going to stay in my house.

So I already have in mind whoever's going to stay here.