Rabbi Aryeh Lebowitz

There is no mitzvah in the Torah, avigadta la'avicha.

There is a mitzvah in the Torah, avigadta la'bilcha.

The father is supposed to tell his children the story.

There is no mitzvah in the Torah for a child to sit there zogging gematrias all night to his father so that the father will know what he's paying his tuition for.

The children are supposed to ask questions.

They should be encouraged to ask questions.

They should be encouraged to think, to use their brains to ask questions.

You should do unusual things to make them ask questions.

And the answer shouldn't always be so that you can ask.

The answer should involve something about the actual story of Yetzias Mitzrayim.

So when you do something unusual, to make one of your nephews or something ask a question, make sure that you're ready with an answer that somehow will relate to Yetzias Mitzrayim.

Now, another misconception is that people believe that since we know that you're supposed to, if you stay up all night being Marbel, Yisab, or Yitzias Mitzrayim, I raise a Meshubach to learn all night Shir Hashirim and be Yisab, Yitzias Mitzrayim.

So people think that means that you should extend Maggid so long that you don't even get to the Afikom until 3 in the morning, and the last of the Dalekosos until 3.30 in the morning, and then you'll be able to show off in Shul the next day.

Look at these bags under my eye.

We're so from.

We were up all night.

And then that is not the halach.

The halach is that the afikomen must be finished by chatzos.

The ramah holds dalet kosos need to be finished by chatzos.

Not only that the afikomen needs to be finished by chatzos.