Rachel Bernstein

And I think just in terms of being able to be accessible, even by phone, they have to keep themselves separate. But that they don't have to be they don't have to feel hatred for their parent almost to give them that allowance. that they can have complicated feelings at the same time. And that would be expected.

And I think just in terms of being able to be accessible, even by phone, they have to keep themselves separate. But that they don't have to be they don't have to feel hatred for their parent almost to give them that allowance. that they can have complicated feelings at the same time. And that would be expected.

But I think surrounding that person with community, with parental figures, with family is really, really important. And yeah, giving them permission to have the gamut of feelings that might be happening simultaneously, like the anger and the guilt and saying goodbye, et cetera. And the, I'm so glad I'm free, but I'm also experiencing loss at the same time.

But I think surrounding that person with community, with parental figures, with family is really, really important. And yeah, giving them permission to have the gamut of feelings that might be happening simultaneously, like the anger and the guilt and saying goodbye, et cetera. And the, I'm so glad I'm free, but I'm also experiencing loss at the same time.

But I think surrounding that person with community, with parental figures, with family is really, really important. And yeah, giving them permission to have the gamut of feelings that might be happening simultaneously, like the anger and the guilt and saying goodbye, et cetera. And the, I'm so glad I'm free, but I'm also experiencing loss at the same time.

I think people don't know that they can feel all that at once and it's okay.

I think people don't know that they can feel all that at once and it's okay.

I think people don't know that they can feel all that at once and it's okay.

Yeah, I think it's a really lovely thought that they need that. They need kind of what we kind of call a glide path, something that will make it easy for them to come back in. Because one of the things that sometimes keeps people aligned with the abuser is that they don't feel like they have anywhere else to go.

Yeah, I think it's a really lovely thought that they need that. They need kind of what we kind of call a glide path, something that will make it easy for them to come back in. Because one of the things that sometimes keeps people aligned with the abuser is that they don't feel like they have anywhere else to go.

Yeah, I think it's a really lovely thought that they need that. They need kind of what we kind of call a glide path, something that will make it easy for them to come back in. Because one of the things that sometimes keeps people aligned with the abuser is that they don't feel like they have anywhere else to go.

They do have the sense that they've burned their bridges outside of this relationship. And so they might stay there for longer because of that. So if you then let them know or the word gets out, even through podcasts like this and other times that you might talk about it, that it really is never too late to be able to have insight. It's never too late to suddenly feel brave enough to really see.

They do have the sense that they've burned their bridges outside of this relationship. And so they might stay there for longer because of that. So if you then let them know or the word gets out, even through podcasts like this and other times that you might talk about it, that it really is never too late to be able to have insight. It's never too late to suddenly feel brave enough to really see.

They do have the sense that they've burned their bridges outside of this relationship. And so they might stay there for longer because of that. So if you then let them know or the word gets out, even through podcasts like this and other times that you might talk about it, that it really is never too late to be able to have insight. It's never too late to suddenly feel brave enough to really see.

And it's never too late, I think, to change your mind. Because it could be that, like with your brother-in-law and anyone else involved in these situations, they weren't ready to see it. They didn't have all the information. And the reason they didn't have all the information was because they weren't willing to look at a lot of the information and really take it in and really absorb it as truth.

And it's never too late, I think, to change your mind. Because it could be that, like with your brother-in-law and anyone else involved in these situations, they weren't ready to see it. They didn't have all the information. And the reason they didn't have all the information was because they weren't willing to look at a lot of the information and really take it in and really absorb it as truth.

And it's never too late, I think, to change your mind. Because it could be that, like with your brother-in-law and anyone else involved in these situations, they weren't ready to see it. They didn't have all the information. And the reason they didn't have all the information was because they weren't willing to look at a lot of the information and really take it in and really absorb it as truth.

So even if it was presented still, it wasn't really presented to them because they deflected it. And then they can at some point say, now I'm willing to look as torturous as that is, but I need to do that. And I need to do that for my child. Then, yeah, they can really, I think, reach out. And it would be such a shame in that moment if when they're reaching out,

So even if it was presented still, it wasn't really presented to them because they deflected it. And then they can at some point say, now I'm willing to look as torturous as that is, but I need to do that. And I need to do that for my child. Then, yeah, they can really, I think, reach out. And it would be such a shame in that moment if when they're reaching out,

So even if it was presented still, it wasn't really presented to them because they deflected it. And then they can at some point say, now I'm willing to look as torturous as that is, but I need to do that. And I need to do that for my child. Then, yeah, they can really, I think, reach out. And it would be such a shame in that moment if when they're reaching out,