Rachelle Hampton

Can I read you the first thing I underline?

Don't worry. It's not a direct quote from you. Oh, thank God. That's later. In the very first chapter, you quote from a book about five Victorian marriages that I immediately wrote down that I wish to read. That is written by Phyllis Rose. And Rose writes, Gossip may be the beginning of moral inquiry, the low end of the platonic ladder which leads to self-understanding.

Don't worry. It's not a direct quote from you. Oh, thank God. That's later. In the very first chapter, you quote from a book about five Victorian marriages that I immediately wrote down that I wish to read. That is written by Phyllis Rose. And Rose writes, Gossip may be the beginning of moral inquiry, the low end of the platonic ladder which leads to self-understanding.

We are desperate for information about how other people live because we want to know how to live ourselves. Yet we are taught to see this desire as an illegitimate form of prying.

We are desperate for information about how other people live because we want to know how to live ourselves. Yet we are taught to see this desire as an illegitimate form of prying.

It's really nice to know that my interest in other people's marriages is just simply a human trait that I will not be trying to eradicate anymore.

It's really nice to know that my interest in other people's marriages is just simply a human trait that I will not be trying to eradicate anymore.

It's designed to keep me safe. Yeah. That's what this is for. But I wanted to talk about the idea of gossip as a tool for self-understanding. And I wanted to know if you feel like there's something about yourself that you have understood better through gossip.

It's designed to keep me safe. Yeah. That's what this is for. But I wanted to talk about the idea of gossip as a tool for self-understanding. And I wanted to know if you feel like there's something about yourself that you have understood better through gossip.

I've been watching Sex and the City for the first time recently.

I've been watching Sex and the City for the first time recently.

I know. But I found myself really turned off by some of the things that Miranda does. And I said this to my roommate and she said, that's really funny because I kind of consider you Miranda in some regards, a mixture of Miranda and Charlotte.

I know. But I found myself really turned off by some of the things that Miranda does. And I said this to my roommate and she said, that's really funny because I kind of consider you Miranda in some regards, a mixture of Miranda and Charlotte.

And I feel like some of the things that we find most distasteful in other people are often the things that are true about ourselves. And so I've wondered if you found that as you have been really doing this inquiry into gossip, where there are things, kind of first instinct reactions that you're like, oh, this actually says a lot about me and my personality. Yeah.

And I feel like some of the things that we find most distasteful in other people are often the things that are true about ourselves. And so I've wondered if you found that as you have been really doing this inquiry into gossip, where there are things, kind of first instinct reactions that you're like, oh, this actually says a lot about me and my personality. Yeah.

So would you say that that has made you more either like empathetic towards other people or sympathetic towards yourself? Like, do you feel like you offer yourself more grace?

So would you say that that has made you more either like empathetic towards other people or sympathetic towards yourself? Like, do you feel like you offer yourself more grace?

I don't know that it is. It's not beautiful that it happens.

I don't know that it is. It's not beautiful that it happens.

That is true. so real i hate when my therapist does that i know she's like why do you think it's interesting and it's like hold on everyone thinks it's interesting let's stop let's stop thinking about me i'm here to host a lecture this is a tight 45 that i'm doing you're here this is a ted talk that you happen to be present for and that i'm paying to do Okay, back to you. Okay.