Ramit Sethi

I agree with all that stuff.

I support it.

But think about what message that sends when you tell men you're supposed to be chivalrous, but there's no real context, no real teaching around it.

And let's say you have a 26-year-old guy now who's earning less than his girlfriend.

So he wants to be chivalrous.

But for him, he's like, well, look at our bank accounts.

And so what I want to emphasize to people is you can be chivalrous, you could be generous.

Money is just a small part of that.

Let's not over fixate on who's paying for tapas, okay?

And let's actually think about the important things.

When it comes to money, we are so obsessed with $3 questions.

People are obsessing over, should I buy this coffee?

Can I afford this appetizer?

On and on and on about $3 questions.

we totally neglect the $30,000 questions or the $300,000 questions.

Is this person financially aligned with me?

How do I even find out?

Am I investing 5% to 10% of take-home pay every month?

Are we doing it together?

Do we talk about money regularly and proactively and positively?