Ranjay Gulati

So you compartmentalize.

So if you look at Captain Sullenberger, what do pilots do?

Immediately when this thing happens, he starts to make a checklist.

And pilots do that because checklist, you stop thinking about the situation and landing the plane on the Hudson.

No pilot has ever done this before.

The last time a pilot tried to do it, the plane flipped and half of them died.

I have to do that in the next 90 seconds.

No, he's just going through his checklist.

Here's my checklist.

Step number one, step number two, step number three, step number four.

So how these people find ways to tame their fear, outwit their fear.

interesting and I've given you extreme examples but I've come to realize most of us in our lives we're living our fears not our dreams there is this diffuse fear that most of us don't even see it and it really undermines our ability to make choices take actions

that might allow us to live to our fullest potential, daily choices that paralyze us.

Some have described courage as the master virtue that unlocks all other virtues, that without courage, you can't really experience other virtues.

Now, having said that, I also wrote, my first chapter was on cowardice.

Coward is one of the worst words you can use to describe somebody, but I think it's important to start this journey

by first recognizing that fear is normal, you got to name it to tame it, first of all.

There's a lot of shaming around fear.

Don't be scared.

I remember doing that to my kids myself, right?